Married Autistics, Where Did You Meet Your Spouse...?

[Gerald Wilgus]

Starting to see a pattern none of us used conventional means.

Damned straight. Expecting a romantic relationship through some pretty hard-core outdoor recreation was the furthest thing from my mind.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

The first lady I asked good friend of my future wife was in my living area saw my vinyl collection noticed I had every queen album, she is an absolute queen fan boy was she surprised. Either way my wife's maid of honour at wedding
Now I find out, her birth day is two days after our wedding she turns 65 lives alone. Plan to buy her a special birth day present, she likes going to concerts would rather watch on TV. Wife and I have a real plan for her. Going to shop around next few months

 

[Jumpinbare]

I know no NTs who self rejected like I did many times, who did not have the social maturity to date until I was 26, and still a virgin at 28 when I nearly panicked my way out of the valuable relationship with my spouse.

Heck, I was 40! Like the movie title. Started to watch the movie, but something interrupted my viewing and I wasn't interested enough to get back to it.

Does that make my autism STRONGER? {crowds cheering in background}

 

[Mary Terry]

That why I'm an Aspie, my knowledge of NT's is watching movies do not like romance movies, I personally do not like jewellery, do not buy it. Yes we are different. I do not wear a ring wife bought her own.

I thought your wife is an NT.

 

[Mary Terry]

I know no NTs who self rejected like I did many times, who did not have the social maturity to date until I was 26, and still a virgin at 28 when I nearly panicked my way out of the valuable relationship with my spouse.

I'm glad you found her, Gerald. Or she found you. Many men including NTs lack confidence. We're inundated these days with incel websites complaining about men's inability to get dates and get married. I'm sure many of the posters on those websites are NT.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

She is she knows my dislike of jewellery, bought her own ring She is very independent always splits the bill. After all when I meet her I was making $7000/year, I was good at living cheap helped her pay off her student loan she had flunked out of a computer course dad told her it was the future she liked accounting not computers. Either way a few months later I got a raised to 13/year still lower than my classmates many who were paid $20k first clue I was on spectrum. Really pissed me off. searched for better position upgraded education further. Put it down to bad luck. My to be wife also changed position, accounting . Followed my lead started upgrading her education at new employers cost.

 

[Crossbreed]

I'm glad you found her, Gerald. Or she found you.

Norwegian Wood...?

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

I'm glad you found her, Gerald. Or she found you. Many men including NTs lack confidence. We're inundated these days with incel websites complaining about men's inability to get dates and get married. I'm sure many of the posters on those websites are NT.

While my celibacy was involuntary, I knew I was not ready for sex as being too emotionally immature to be vulnerable to another. I am very happy that I managed to mature a bit (though late) and was never a misogynistic, enraged, Incel. How did that movement become so degenerate? The term was coined by a woman who was interested in an accepting community.
Woman behind 'incel' says angry men hijacked her word 'as a weapon of war'

 

[vergil96]

No, not all NTs like a dinner and date, whatever you may think that is. My first "date" with my now-husband was to go fishing and eat a picnic lunch together.

Sounds fun

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

Never went fishing in my life no interest.

 

[Ken]

I actually never "met" my wife before we got together. I was 44 years old when AOL was first starting. I got onto AOL's chat room. I was scared to death of any social gatherings but could tolerate an on-line chat room, because I was still alone in my house and none of the people in the chat room was physically with me.

Long story short; after several months in the chat room, my wife and me were communicating for hours at a time. In fact, the chat room is where I learned to type. She expressed an interest in meeting me in person, which terrified me. She insisted and said she was going to drive the several hundred miles to my house. I knew that was going to be a catastrophic failure, because that was the unyielding history of my life.

Shortening the story even more; She came, she was happy, bought a bigger house, we got married 28-Dec-1996.

We have both admitted that if we had ever met, in-person, before AOL, no chance we would have ever gotten together much less married. She fell in love with me, and vice versa, in that chat room, where she could not see me or experience my weird expressions and mannerisms. But, love is love which was more powerful than the autistic negatives of my person. I would have never believed that, but it happened.