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Losing A Lifelong Special Interest

Discussion in 'Obsessions and Interests' started by Deep_Blue_Girl, Sep 27, 2020.

  1. Deep_Blue_Girl

    Deep_Blue_Girl Active Member

    Sep 26, 2020
    Aspies and roommates don't work well together? In what ways?
  2. Yeshuasdaughter

    Yeshuasdaughter You know, that one lady we met that one time. V.I.P Member

    Apr 19, 2019
    It's very nice to live alone in your fortress of solitude, as a respite from the oversensory world.
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  3. Aspie_With_Attitude

    Aspie_With_Attitude Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

    Feb 24, 2018
    My special interest had came and went. Mine is currently autistic YouTube blogging and so far from my YouTube channel I had made two documentaries about my past special interest that I don't have anymore.

    1995 - 2001 "Model Railroading with HO Scale"

    2003 - 2016 "Rhyming and Rapping in the Hip-Hop scene"
  4. lolcatal

    lolcatal Well-Known Member

    Oct 30, 2014
    I've had the same primary special interest since I was six, but it can get expensive, so I've tried a couple of times to replace it with something else. But I've never been able to give it up completely. I've just looked for ways to reduce the part that costs money.
  5. WolfSpirit

    WolfSpirit Not a dictionary. Or a search engine

    Jan 31, 2021
    I always thought I would go to grad school. It was the only socially acceptable thing that I was actual capable of doing that I could find that would satisfy the adults in my life in terms of life goals, etc. ... in the end, after many, many years of part time undergraduate studies, and two B.A.s later, and an event of academic discrimination and harassment, despite my best efforts to preempt such a problem, and several reassurances no such thing would happen, and the resultant PTSD and burnout, my academic mentor, and friend pointed out to me that it might be a dream I'd have to give up. That it might not be achievable, no matter what my academic abilities were, and what my desires were. In the end, I decided shevwas right. I just didn't have it in me yo be 'first', again, and to be the trailblazer for autistic grad students. I had done that for undergrad, and in some ways, never stopped. (Though I was often oblivious to it), and I just didn't have any more in me. I'd used it all up fighting to finish my last degree. Also, those bullies had broken something thst was fledgling at the time, and no matter my resilience, and no matter my strength, or resolve, I just didn't have it in me any more.

    Almost a decade later, I've wound up with s pretty great life. Better than I could've ever imagined, but that has meant giving up on the whole notion of 'competing' with the NT world, or being financially self sufficient.
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