Life With a Partner or Spouse With Asperger Syndrome: Going Over the Edge? 2020-11-23

[VictorR]

VictorR submitted a new resource:

Life With a Partner or Spouse With Asperger Syndrome: Going Over the Edge? - Practical Steps to Saving You and Your Relationship

Information on how to have a successful relationship with your autistic spouse!

Delve into the dramatic impact autism spectrum disorder can have on the complex world of adult interpersonal relationships.

In Life With a Partner or Spouse With Asperger Syndrome: Going Over the Edge? Practical Steps to Saving You and Your Relationship, psychologist Kathy Marshack shares poignant true stories based on her own life and the lives of her clients, focusing on how partners/spouses of...

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[Au Naturel]

My key was finding one who didn't mind if I rode around town naked on a bicycle.

 

[Pistachio]

No spouse but the first chapter was interesting. Requested the Marshack book at my library, and a few others. Thank you!

 

[Ursus Chainus]

My key was finding one who didn't mind if I rode around town naked on a bicycle.

That is an excellent standard! Mine wouldn't mind... she would just tell me in her VN accent "You stupid!"

 

[aspieoutlaw89]

My key was finding one who didn't mind if I rode around town naked on a bicycle.

mine is finding one who would love me just as i am & not minding my kinks:wild animals (despite them being dangerous) & giant stuffed animals (used as sex toys when she's unavailable,on a girls trip with her friends).

 

[Au Naturel]

That is an excellent standard! Mine wouldn't mind... she would just tell me in her VN accent "You stupid!"

Mine held my clothes once. Another time she rode with me - she stayed clothed.

 

[Pistachio]

No spouse but the first chapter was interesting. Requested the Marshack book at my library, and a few others. Thank you!

I just finished this book. I was surprised that a supposedly autism centric therapist was so anti-autism, she seemed to be always on the NT person's side.

It read more like: here are the two extremes of NT/autistic relationships (fine) but always expecting the autistic person to make adjustments, even when they don't know anything about an NT way of being. After this book, I would never go to a therapist again.

It also came across as some examples anyway, didnt seem autistic/NT, but just dysfunctional, crappy marriages, crappy parenting skills too.

Although, one concept from the book i had no clue about: they mentioned looking at someone's eyes and seeing a mirror, something along the lines of mind reading. Is this what NT people experience? I don't mean a person reading face/body language, mirroring their body language, but an actual mirror in their eyes. And if it's more of an abstract concept/feeling, what are they talking about? I think I pick up on a "vibe in the room" when talking to people but a mirror, no.

 

[Crossbreed]

After this book, I would never go to a therapist again.

There are autism-competent therapists out there. You just need to know where to look.

If you are in the USA...

 

[VictorR]

I just finished this book. I was surprised that a supposedly autism centric therapist was so anti-autism, she seemed to be always on the NT person's side.

It read more like: here are the two extremes of NT/autistic relationships (fine) but always expecting the autistic person to make adjustments, even when they don't know anything about an NT way of being. After this book, I would never go to a therapist again.

It also came across as some examples anyway, didnt seem autistic/NT, but just dysfunctional, crappy marriages, crappy parenting skills too.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts @Pistachio!

It's always nice in a healthy discussion to see a counterpoint.

Given that the target market is admittedly towards spouses of aspies, and specifically, those with difficulties, do you think that perhaps some of the examples might have been chosen for effect?