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Let's celebrate our little victories!

Discussion in 'Help and Support' started by CJinherPJs, Aug 24, 2010.

  1. CJinherPJs

    CJinherPJs Professional Weirdo V.I.P Member

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    I saw the "How do you cope in public?" thread and thought a thread in which we could celebrate our little victories would be a good idea, so I'm going to start with mine:

    Today was the first time I paid money into my bank account, seeing as my dad had my young savers account cancelled and I now have a cash ISA that I can access myself. He also cancelled my Principality account and was going to pay the money into the other one but, because it was busy in town, I got out of the car and went into the building society myself to pay the money in. I know it isn't much but it's something I wouldn't normally feel comfortable with doing, so it feels good to know there are things I can actually do which previously I didn't think I could.

    So how about you?
     
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    Congratulations CJ!
     
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    CJinherPJs Professional Weirdo V.I.P Member

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    Thank you.:)
     
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    Congratulations CJ, so you feel alot more confident?
     
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    CJinherPJs Professional Weirdo V.I.P Member

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    Thanks Ian.:)

    I do feel more confident now I know I can do things like this, whereas before I would avoid even trying to pay for something in a shop because I was afraid of doing something wrong or being challenged, which would cause me to become uncomfortable and try to explain myself and end up feeling silly. But the way I see it now, I'm just another customer to them, and they're busy concentrating on their job so they probably don't give customers a second thought after they've gone. That helps a lot.
     
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    I have had a lot of (big) victories over this summer. I managed to go to the cinema with a group of friends, one whom I hadn't seen in years. I added her on Facebook and started talking and stuff. I was able to get two other female friends/associates numbers (whom I also haven't seen in years) and have been texting them to arrange social outings.

    I managed to organize a trip to the beach with them and my other friends. I used this opportunity to (small) talk to the female friends and re-connect with them. Everything didn't go as I had planned but it was actually pretty good regardless. Last night I went to the cinema again with some friends and had a good time. Earlier in the summer a friend of mine introduced me to two new people and we all went bowling and ice-skating. It was difficult at times due to the fact I can't skate and there was a big crowd but I still managed to enjoy myself.

    Overall, this year is the most I have ever been sociable and I have really been making an effort. Whether it is small-talk, getting people's numbers, re-connecting with old friends/associates, trying to organize group outings or chatting on MSN - this year as been a big step in the right direction for me.
     
  7. CJinherPJs

    CJinherPJs Professional Weirdo V.I.P Member

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    Nice going Calvert!:) You deserve a congratulations for your efforts.
     
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    CJinherPJs Professional Weirdo V.I.P Member

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    LOL I guess so.:lol2:
     
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    I guess that counts? I'm still quite getting the hang out of using Windows 7.
     
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    I liked Windows 7 a lot right away.
     
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    Firnafth Mammalogist V.I.P Member

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    I spent two consecutive entire days doing fieldwork by myself in the forest and did not once suffer paranoid terror. I feel OK about going back out there. (Last time I spent two full days out there, I suffered great terror and it took me two weeks before I stopped internally cringing every time I went back out. I have to go out there to set things up or collect data almost every day).

    I am enjoying my life reasonably now!
     
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    I got stung by a bee in the head this morning, and I was able to get my job done.
     
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    I was able to do a speech on something that was not Greek. (at the time, Greece is all I loved. Nothing else) It was about why there should be a death penalty. It was speech and debate. I had to write and say why there should be a death penalty, even if I didn't agree with it (I do agree with it because if someone kills my family or someone they love, they don't deserve to live)

    Does that count?
     
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    Firnafth Mammalogist V.I.P Member

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    If you mean "does that count as a little victory," yes it does!
     
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    It sure does, congratulations to you all and keep 'em coming!

    As for me, people at school have told me that I'm more outgoing now than I used to be, and I'm glad to hear that because I have been making more of an effort to talk and ask questions, so I'm pleased it's paying off.
     
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    No victories for me this year, unfortunately, but I'll try to make an attempt to fix my life next year.
     
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    I suppose my victory this year is that I managed to put a name on the way I am. That I am an Aspie. I still don't have many answers to the issues I have, but I am more aware of them. and I am here at SV getting some support from all of you. And now that I notice my behaviors, I want to work on them. I know they won't go away, but maybe some things I can learn to do better or different. So I am doing what I need to do. I was going to put about five other things, but I realized they are all bicycling related, so that's boring.
     
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    The second time I went to facebook this week
    my heart didn't pound. I can see that if I don't
    want to look at or answer a message, I don't
    have to do either of those things.

    I am not making it a daily habit to use facebook,
    but there were a couple people that I have no
    other way of contacting, except through fb.

    Facebook messages weren't a problem to me
    until my sister started being mean. Now I am
    trying to desensitize myself to the experience
    of going there.

    I unfriended one person (my sister's "husband").
     
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    I will celebrate the victory of getting the "official" phone call that I start my new job on Monday. I am also restarting my journey with Marklin brand European trains. Left that journey when we moved back to Indiana from Pennsylvania. I restarted that journey today with the purchase of an engine and some track. Mike
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    I got my Danish Duolingo tree fully gold again meaning I am at full strength (not an easy task as the various subjects turn back to their normal colour one by one, every few hours). I also got on top of the housework and have kept at it for about a month now. I have never managed to for this long before.
     
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