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Is writing or speaking easier for you?

if6wasnin9

if6wasnin9

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I have a much easier time writing than speaking. I have lots of trouble speaking like finding words and losing my train of thought in the middle of sentences. I can't explain it because I was better before being a teen.
 
Writing for sure because I have to think through my thoughts and I can read what I write and make edits as necessary. It does take a lot of focus and energy though. Meanwhile, my speaking ability can vary depending on how tired or stressed I am along with my mood. I tend to lose the ability to speak in clear thoughts when my mind is distracted by other thoughts or sensory inputs. Also, speaking and conversations usually move too fast for me...I can't always keep up when we jump from topic to topic rapidly.
 
mw2530 said:
Meanwhile, my speaking ability can vary depending on how tired or stressed I am along with my mood.
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I can have trouble saying much when in a bit of a shutdown mode. (This is mostly happens in response to another person screaming, throwing things, ECT). I doubt if writing would be any easier than speaking when in that mode because it's basically a freeze response.
 
Due to having a speech impediment, he answer is super simple for me writing.

I can write multiple paragraphs in less time, at times, than it can take me to speak a couple sentences if it gets really bad.
 
Speaking and writing are equal to me if it is just chit-chat. In such situation speaking is fluent and even witty and quickly responding. Having stock responses and subjects to talk about helps.

Sometimes I get locked and can't speak properly (I stutter, or I can't figure any words at all), but it is rare and happens only when I am surprised (meaning that I didn't expect to have to talk with anyone, and suddenly someone appears behind my back and says something which I have to answer quickly). I call it "being in the correct mode". Moving between modes is not swift, and I can't be in full thinking and full speaking mode same time.

However, passing information is best to be done as writing, as otherwise I forget correct terms, stray from the point, get interrupted by people in mid-sentence, make people bored, can't edit, fact-check, and structure my message properly, and so on... Oh, and stutter or can't figure any words at all...
 
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if6wasnin9 said:
I have a much easier time writing than speaking. I have lots of trouble speaking like finding words and losing my train of thought in the middle of sentences. I can't explain it because I was better before being a teen.
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Same here.

I can stand up and lecture... essentially monologuing... but if we are conversing, you and I... that back-and-forth dialogue, I will struggle. Add more people... I will just shut down... observe, smile, nod my head, etc. but I am pretty much non-verbal.
 
Writing for sure. My anxiety gets in the way of speaking. I lose words, get anxious, lose my focus, get even more anxious, etc.
 
I find writing in 90% of cases is far easier than talking. The 10%, in which I do talk, is because I know enough to competently have a conversation about it.

Some times small talk falls into that 10% on a really good day.
 
Writing definitely.

Being able to reread what I've written, and edit the heck out of it helps.
 
Writing is typically the easier of the two for me as I can pause and think about what I want to say. And I can go back and proof what I've written, even if I forget to half the time.

Speaking it depends upon the situation. Work things, task related, no problems at all. But casual conversation I've always struggled with. Small talk topics seldom interest me so I usually have no input in the talks. Things like "networking events" I dread as I never know how to go about introducing myself to and coming up with things to talk about with complete strangers on the spot. Though if I meet a random stranger and they bring up a topic I know or at least find interesting I don't shut up.

If it's a public presentation though I don't mind that at all. Then I am there to talk about X, for X amount of time. I prepare ahead of time I know what I'm going to say and I do so, I don't get nervous in front of a crowd. I get nervous in the crowds, if that makes sense.
 
if6wasnin9 said:
I have a much easier time writing than speaking. I have lots of trouble speaking like finding words and losing my train of thought in the middle of sentences. I can't explain it because I was better before being a teen.
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I am much better at writing. I always think of the right thing to say in a conversation a day after the conversation has happened. Annoying.
 
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