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Is That Why People Hate me?

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by Skittlebisquit, Mar 7, 2021.

  1. Skittlebisquit

    Skittlebisquit Hope is faith rewarded in advance

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    If i seriously just dont understand what they are saying; and They DON'T like that.

    Or if what they say doesnt quite make sense right now;(again)

    Or if i SEE what is the next stepping stone in the topic tree
    And skip ahead;(dancing joy)
    Again....

    Or if i just dont say anything
    At all. Like ever.
    Then am I "stuck up"?
    Again...

    Or if what just happened;
    Doesnt quite matter,(to me)
    At least I dont think,(you did)
    Not
    Yet.

    Or if i was drawing pictures again...
    Of machines in my head again...
    Oh! Watch the gears spin;
    And Roll, And Roll Around.....

    If what you said didnt quite....
    Hit right, or Land Rite, or;
    Be even enough to count:
    IF it should have anyways.....

    I should have been better,
    Better not Bitter....
    But then wait!
    You could have been better;
    You could have tried harder, you could!

    And over and over again...
    I could have been better;
    Or better, not bitter again.
    But i just cant do it, or i cant afford it;
    Or something like that...
    Once Again
     
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  2. unperson

    unperson Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Amen.
     
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  3. Aspychata

    Aspychata Serenity waves, beachy vibes

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    we fornicate fluff, we bleed empty canals, we lose ourselves amongst the NT's.
     
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  4. Major Tom

    Major Tom Searching for ground control... V.I.P Member

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    I don't really care if people dislike me, it's just a sign that they are someone to avoid. If they can't see me for me, or do see me for me and judge me as unworthy, then that's their issue. I have too much on my plate to care about other people's drama and opinions. It wasn't always the case, but it certainly is now.

    If you let people who dislike/hate you get under your skin, you are giving them exactly what they want. It's much better to shrug it off and stop worrying about it. In my opinion.
     
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  5. Wolfsage

    Wolfsage In training to be Wolf King.

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    I got told to my face someone didn't like me. When I asked why. They say they didn't know but, there was something about me they didn't like.
     
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  6. Shamar

    Shamar Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Allow me to summarize:

    You don't pay attention to ME, therefor I hate you
    You don't understand ME, therefor I hate you
    You don't let ME finish, therefor I hate you
    You don't respond to ME, therefor I hate you
    You don't care about ME, therefor I hate you
    You are not thinking about ME, therefor I hate you
    You don't think like ME, therefor you scare me, therefor I hate you

    It seems to me you are not the one with the problem.
     
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  7. Siegfried Wolfram

    Siegfried Wolfram New Member

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    So beautiful what you wrote. I often feel the same way... but we really shouldn't pay attention to those who won't care enough to try to understand. It's not worth it the sweat to talk to them and try to match them in their stuff. Why should we, anyway? I mean, if someone really wants to understand you and tries hard even if they sometimes fail, that's a relationship we should work on... but if they just dismiss you and turn their backs on you, you should turn your back on them too.
     
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  8. unperson

    unperson Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Yes, I heard that statement many many times, 'there's something about you'.
     
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  9. SusanLR

    SusanLR Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    I go through this everyday with the person I live with.
    Let me add one line:

    You don't respond to ME, therefor I hate you,
    You do respond to ME, but, I don't understand you, therefor I hate you.

    A lose, lose situation.
     
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  10. SchrodingersMeerkat

    SchrodingersMeerkat trash mammal

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    I quit caring about what other people thought of me a long time ago. People who love me will still love me regardless of my faults. People who hate me because of something beyond my control...that's their fault. Even if everyone on Earth hates me. I know God loves me and that's enough.
     
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  11. Skittlebisquit

    Skittlebisquit Hope is faith rewarded in advance

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    Thank you all, im glad you liked my almost a poem. Its a dark thought, but sunshine srives away the gloom
     
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  12. Skittlebisquit

    Skittlebisquit Hope is faith rewarded in advance

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    It might not be my issue, but sometimes your issues become my problems....
     
  13. Skittlebisquit

    Skittlebisquit Hope is faith rewarded in advance

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    Truth is there are ppl out there who are not mean and wierd and all that. I just remember the meanies the most....
     
  14. unperson

    unperson Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Pain creates memory, that's what corporal punishment is for.
     
  15. Bibliophile715

    Bibliophile715 Armin - system member - any pronouns

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    Been hated before, don't really hate anyone anymore because if I think about the emotion for too long it unsettles my mental state.

    If someone extremely doesn't like me they'll hate me.
    If someone extremely doesn't like anything I'm diagnosed with they'll hate me.
    If someone doesn't like what I look like because I have difficulty taking care of myself sometimes they'll hate me.
    If someone doesn't like what I identify as they'll hate me.
    If someone really doesn't like a certain thing I like they'll hate me.
    If someone's extremely narcissistic they really won't like me because I'm empathetic.

    People can hate other people. It doesn't mean we shouldn't be ourselves so long as we believe in ourselves and know ourselves to be good. I've found that the nice people I've talked to are willing to explain something should I not understand it but not everyone will. I hated a fictional character a bit in the past, they're now a system member of mine, and we get along. My thoughts and opinions are my own and I don't let anyone change them anymore.