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Is it normal to not have sensory issues as an autistic person?

I think my sensory issues are pretty mild but I do have them. I hate scratchy clothing, certain sounds will drive me to a rage if I don't walk away from it, and lights that are too bright (i'm having a lot of trouble right now because it's summer - currently sitting in a dark room for a bit).

The only stim I have it skin picking but it's not bad. I used to pick my fingers till they bled but I have it mostly under control now.
 
Outdated said:
Not this little black duck!
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Interesting side note - also about political correctness.

That's a quote from a popular cartoon when I was a kid - Daffy Duck. It was one of his common catch phrases. Those cartoons are banned worlwide these days because they "encourage violence" yet the world is far more violent and dangerous today than it was when I was growing up.

And those same people that won't let you watch old cartoons think that the cultures evident in popular social media platforms are perfectly acceptable and normal.

What a lot of these tree hugging do gooders failed to see is that these cartoons didn't just portray violence, they also portrayed that violence has consequences.
 
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yet the world is far more violent and dangerous today than it was when I was growing up.
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Is it? I'm genuinely curious what you think.

Imo the bad stuff will always be there to some degree

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these cartoons didn't just portray violence, they also portrayed that violence has consequences.
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And that you're not helpless when bad things happen and can fight back. It's an important behaviour.
 
vergil96 said:
Is it? I'm genuinely curious what you think.
Imo the bad stuff will always be there to some degree
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It has always been there and it always will be, but the style and the attitude has changed. When I was growing up fist fights were commonly quite bad, even to the point of kicking someone's ribs in when they were down, but these days it's a lot more common for kids and young men to be carrying knives.
 
maleonolo said:
Did you manage to make lots of friends after school?
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Sorry, I didn't notice this question until just now. It wasn't until after school that I started making friends and learning how to socialise, and for most of my life I always ended up with far more friends than I could really deal with.

This is actually a common autistic trait, most of us mature intellectually much earlier than other children but our social maturity takes a lot longer than normal.

I never settled down and married or any of that, I decided early in life that I didn't want to own my own home. I earnt seriously good money for much of my life and I went out and partied with it. I've had a far better life than most people could dream of and I reckon I still do. There's been a few rough patches here and there but that only makes you appreciate the good times more.
 
I don't know about others, but if I wear a shirt with a seam in the wrong place, it is all I can feel and think about until I get the wretched thing off of me. Don't get me started on loud environments.
 
velociraptor said:
I don't know about others, but if I wear a shirt with a seam in the wrong place, it is all I can feel and think about until I get the wretched thing off of me. Don't get me started on loud environments.
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I can't wear anything nylon or polyester, it itches and makes my skin go red. Labels inside clothes do the same thing. I get funny looks from people when I go clothes shopping because I shop by feel, touching everything to see what it feels like. If something's pure harsh nylon I'll snap my hand back quick and wipe my fingers on my jeans leg trying to get rid of the feel.

Loud environments I can deal with, my job was in a loud environment. Loud jabbering voices such as in a crowded restaurant is a different matter, I'll by takeaway and sit out in the street to eat it instead of submitting myself to that.
 
Judge said:
Mainstream forums? I've been online even before the Internet's inception. Still using DOS back then.

Though by the late 90s I began to retreat from social media platforms in general. "Just say no to Facebook" mentality, determining that most of them are inherently toxic for autistic people.

This is the only forum I actually participate in as a member. Mostly to learn and come to grips with who and what I am. From a perspective of people I won't easily find much of anywhere else.

Though I access any number of technical forums for information alone, but never participating.
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have u tried 4chan? Not sure if it existed in the 90s but probably did
 
vergil96 said:
I don't think 4chan supports your mental health tbh, if you use it...
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no I don't really use it but it's much more refreshing than mainstream sites cuz there's no filter. Helps to get a different perspective too cuz they swing right, it's unhealthy to be in an echo chamber
 
Judge said:
Stimming is your mind and body's attempt to regulate your emotions/sensory experiences.

Why would you want to stop them?

For myself I have only two I'm aware of, and in general only happen involuntarily. Pacing in a circle deep in thought, or simply remaining stationary while gently swaying back and forth. No harm, no foul.

The first I seem to do mostly alone....the second I don't really care who may see me doing as such.
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is stimming supposed to stop meltdowns?
 
maleonolo said:
no I don't really use it but it's much more refreshing than mainstream sites cuz there's no filter. Helps to get a different perspective too cuz they swing right, it's unhealthy to be in an echo chamber
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Are you sure you are looking for that kind of "different perspective"? They're not representative of the right side of politics either. 4chan is social pathology, not quite your church going family... Also "no filter" doesn't have to mean what is on 4chan. There is gradation between fake positivity and violence and bullying. "No fake filter" doesn't mean attacking anyone, opinions can be expressed politely and in a tolerant manner and people can have tolerant opionions and genuinely care about others who aren't like them, are worse off and so on. Read the news from both ends of the political spectrum if you want that kind of opinions. News services vary a lot.

maleonolo said:
is stimming supposed to stop meltdowns?
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No, it won't stop you from a meltdown. But can help you build a healthier way to self-regulate that will result in less and less frequent meltdowns as you build it. A lot of people stim in socially acceptable ways, there is no shame in that.
 
vergil96 said:
Are you sure you are looking for that kind of "different perspective"? They're not representative of the right side of politics either. 4chan is social pathology, not quite your church going family... Also "no filter" doesn't have to mean what is on 4chan. There is gradation between fake positivity and violence and bullying. "No fake filter" doesn't mean attacking anyone, opinions can be expressed politely and in a tolerant manner and people can have tolerant opionions and genuinely care about others who aren't like them, are worse off and so on. Read the news from both ends of the political spectrum if you want that kind of opinions. News services vary a lot.


No, it won't stop you from a meltdown. But can help you build a healthier way to self-regulate that will result in less and less frequent meltdowns as you build it. A lot of people stim in socially acceptable ways, there is no shame in that
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By social pathology do you mean that they are deviants? I meant that on 4chan the veneer of civility is quite thin and they tend to speak their minds. It helps to know what people really think in their own words and that's possible because it is less censored than other social media. Even if some of their views are deplorable, I've noticed that if you go into the right thread, debates on that board can be more civil than the so-called tolerant websites like Reddit where the right doesn't have the chance to argue their case because the overwhelmingly left crowd will vote them into oblivion and they'll lose the right to comment due to the karma system. And I'm speaking as someone who skews left. I don't browse 4chan anymore though, never commented on it actually. I only bother reading AP news. Recently I noticed the onion news isn't funny anymore because all the satire is actually taking place in reality
 
maleonolo said:
social pathology
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Violence, death wishes, bullying, insults, self-hate, lack of respect. If you're comparing 4chan and Reddit, then... I agree about Reddit, and my general feeling about this website is also that people overreact based on overinterpretations and buzzwords. Reddit isn't tolerant at all.

The brain needs a proper diet too. If you feed it content filled with hate, it will deteriorate your relationship with yourself and others. You're going to mimic what you've read and how others in a place you frequent relate to you. And you're going to ruminate pointless destructive insults and "opinions" that you've encountered. Ruminate instead of doing something that will propel you forward in the same time. There is no point in thinking repeatedly "I am a loser and degegerate, nobody likes me" (for instance). You are who you are and judging yourself harshly and inflicting psychological suffering on yourself isn't going to move your forward. Quite the opposite. With a lot of things success depends on whether you just keep on trying and moving forward and the major way you can sabotage yourself is not trying because you think you already lost the game.

How about reading other websites than 4chan and Reddit? I don't stay up to date with the English-speaking news websites, but there are plenty and maybe someone else can recommend something.
 
vergil96 said:
Violence, death wishes, bullying, insults, self-hate, lack of respect. If you're comparing 4chan and Reddit, then... I agree about Reddit, and my general feeling about this website is also that people overreact based on overinterpretations and buzzwords. Reddit isn't tolerant at all.

The brain needs a proper diet too. If you feed it content filled with hate, it will deteriorate your relationship with yourself and others. You're going to mimic what you've read and how others in a place you frequent relate to you. And you're going to ruminate pointless destructive insults and "opinions" that you've encountered. Ruminate instead of doing something that will propel you forward in the same time. There is no point in thinking repeatedly "I am a loser and degegerate, nobody likes me" (for instance). You are who you are and judging yourself harshly and inflicting psychological suffering on yourself isn't going to move your forward. Quite the opposite. With a lot of things success depends on whether you just keep on trying and moving forward and the major way you can sabotage yourself is not trying because you think you already lost the game.

How about reading other websites than 4chan and Reddit? I don't stay up to date with the English-speaking news websites, but there are plenty and maybe someone else can recommend something.
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There isn't much of value to read on social media in my opinion, Reddit is useful now as Google is getting worse. If one encounters an issue in mundane day-to-day life, they could search on that forum for fixes. Reading books is the best way to acquire knowledge. Most articles online (excluding research papers and the like) are just soundbites that confer a shallow understanding of a topic or they're sponsored by some company to paint them in a good light. Since the search engine is getting worse, it's hard to get reliable sources vs websites that gamed the SEO algorithm. It also takes a long time to get knowledgeable at a subject especially for an average person like me, so I've stopped paying attention to many topics that I've felt are unimportant
 
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Sorry, I didn't notice this question until just now. It wasn't until after school that I started making friends and learning how to socialise, and for most of my life I always ended up with far more friends than I could really deal with.

This is actually a common autistic trait, most of us mature intellectually much earlier than other children but our social maturity takes a lot longer than normal.

I never settled down and married or any of that, I decided early in life that I didn't want to own my own home. I earnt seriously good money for much of my life and I went out and partied with it. I've had a far better life than most people could dream of and I reckon I still do. There's been a few rough patches here and there but that only makes you appreciate the good times more.
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Did you join clubs to make friends? Some say it's bad to make friends with one's colleagues but idk if that's true. Keep professional and personal lives separate, the adage goes
 
vergil96 said:
It depends on the job and the collegues
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I'm afraid that if I go into the job market now I'll burn lots of bridges in my industry cuz of my poor social skills and I might be stuck in this city for a very long time. So I'm thinking of working in the tourism industry first to carve these skills into my soul
 
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