Sometimes I get frustrated with myself because I spend a lot of time trying to get someone to truly understand me and I don't feel like anyone does. I've always wished someone out there truly knew me and don't think that's ever happened. Even my close relationships, there was never that other person wanting to know who I was. So I ask those of you with good, strong marriages - in a real relationship do you feel the other does know who you are?
I've been married three times. First, was not my choice - parents made me. I'm not sure what I was to him - he was never home, but out drinking and running around (which he never changed with any of his marriages). And I was too young to know anything about anything.
But I chose my second husband. I was head over heels in love and I think it would have lasted to this day if it weren't for him being a con artist and gay. But I ended up being for him a cover and a warning to alarm if someone was getting too close to tracking him down - they'd have to get to me first, which would give him a chance to flee.
So I raised my kids and took the single parent road. But once they were all grown I wanted someone in my life and married again. Come to learn he had no interest in who I was, just wanted someone to take care of him financially and his needs (cook, laundry, clean house, run his golf clubs to him, etc). I'd try to talk to him and he had absolutely no interest. Anyhow - didn't work out. I remember soon after we were married, I was trying to talk to him about our relationship and he explained that he didn't love me 'like that'. Talk about a fall! Anyhow.....
I feel like I've spent a lot of my life trying to get someone to understand who I am and it's never happened. Is there such a thing as finding someone who really does want to know who you are and understand how you think and feel? I think that's what makes me feel so alone in this world. Maybe one reason I come here.
I've been married three times. First, was not my choice - parents made me. I'm not sure what I was to him - he was never home, but out drinking and running around (which he never changed with any of his marriages). And I was too young to know anything about anything.
But I chose my second husband. I was head over heels in love and I think it would have lasted to this day if it weren't for him being a con artist and gay. But I ended up being for him a cover and a warning to alarm if someone was getting too close to tracking him down - they'd have to get to me first, which would give him a chance to flee.
So I raised my kids and took the single parent road. But once they were all grown I wanted someone in my life and married again. Come to learn he had no interest in who I was, just wanted someone to take care of him financially and his needs (cook, laundry, clean house, run his golf clubs to him, etc). I'd try to talk to him and he had absolutely no interest. Anyhow - didn't work out. I remember soon after we were married, I was trying to talk to him about our relationship and he explained that he didn't love me 'like that'. Talk about a fall! Anyhow.....
I feel like I've spent a lot of my life trying to get someone to understand who I am and it's never happened. Is there such a thing as finding someone who really does want to know who you are and understand how you think and feel? I think that's what makes me feel so alone in this world. Maybe one reason I come here.