Is It Better To Disclose?

[peoplesrjames]

Hey everyone. I was recently at a large family thanksgiving dinner(my roommates family, not mine) and everyone was treating me really well. This is my 3rd year going since none of my family lives in town and I always go back home for Christmas. Anyways, I told him later that it was really weird how everyone was extra nice to me when generally they have been indifferent. He told me that he disclosed to everyone about my diagnosis so they all understood me better or something like that. Initially I was really upset that he disclosed something so personal to me without my knowledge or consent. But then I said, things were so much better this year. That has me thinking, do you think its better to disclose?

 

[Judge]

https://www.aspiescentral.com/threads/to-tell-or-not-to-tell.13761/#post-260139

https://www.aspiescentral.com/threads/coming-out-to-others-their-responses.10681/#post-189716

 

[garnetflower13]

It's hard for me to say definitively if one should disclose as a rule. I think that it in the case of your family, it worked out in your favor. Of course you yourself did not disclose,someone else did on your behalf. I really think it is a case by case deal.

This past summer, I was going with my husband to spend a week with some in-laws that I hadn't met yet. I was stressed about it, and finally my husband admitted that he had disclosed my diagnoses to them. At first I was uncomfortable with this news, but the visit went really well because they were extra nice to me, and forgiving of my little idiosyncrasies. So in that case, yes, it was a good idea to disclose.