"Interested" in a co-worker...what to do??

[JCPHN]

OK, so I have received an offer for a 2nd job, and I felt my interview went fairly well. I will know for sure if I get the position next week.

Lately I haven't been able to fully avoid thinking about a co-worker I kind of "have the hots" for. She's somewhat similar to me, independent, introverted, not really into "partying," and we have some stuff in common like taste in certain music, comedy, books, etc. Certain discussions we've had about more intimate personal subjects sort of opened my mind to the possibility that she may be attracted to me as well as the obvious attraction I have for her. She has mentioned sexual preferences, romantic expectations, and general personal lifestyle choices that I can relate to a lot. She's also complimented my looks on occasion, as well as receiving compliments I've given her. Yet alas, I can't seem to interpret things properly; is she just being nice as a friend or is there a possible underlying context?

I would like to try and "start something" with her, if practical, given that I get the new job, in order to avoid work-related complications. I know it's not exactly practical to be interested in somebody you work with, but what if I don't anymore relatively soon?

Should I go for it? Any advice?

 

[Judge]

OK, so I have received an offer for a 2nd job, and I felt my interview went fairly well. I will know for sure if I get the position next week.

Lately I haven't been able to fully avoid thinking about a co-worker I kind of "have the hots" for. She's somewhat similar to me, independent, introverted, not really into "partying," and we have some stuff in common like taste in certain music, comedy, books, etc. Certain discussions we've had about more intimate personal subjects sort of opened my mind to the possibility that she may be attracted to me as well as the obvious attraction I have for her. She has mentioned sexual preferences, romantic expectations, and general personal lifestyle choices that I can relate to a lot. She's also complimented my looks on occasion, as well as receiving compliments I've given her. Yet alas, I can't seem to interpret things properly; is she just being nice as a friend or is there a possible underlying context?

I would like to try and "start something" with her, if practical, given that I get the new job, in order to avoid work-related complications. I know it's not exactly practical to be interested in somebody you work with, but what if I don't anymore relatively soon?

Should I go for it? Any advice?

Go for it. Even better if you get the new job so you don't work in the same place. Most of my relationships involved people I worked with. After all, I don't "date" at all in the traditional sense.

The downside is when you break up for whatever reason, and still have to work in close proximity of one another.

When I think about it, for Neuroytpicals it would almost be easy to generalize and say, "Don't look for a relationship at work." But in all honesty for many Aspies, it might be our best- or even only real chance.

 

[On the Inside]

When I think about it, for Neuroytpicals it would almost be easy to generalize and say, "Don't look for a relationship at work." But in all honesty for many Aspies, it might be our best- or even only real chance.

That's interesting, I've worked with lots of people who's spouses worked at the same institution. They were all nerdy, but I don't know if they were Aspies.

I once got a girlfriend a job where I worked, we were usually working together. She found a different job after 6 months or so, but it was fine while we worked together.

 

[nowwhat]

Quit dithering. Make a move and find out, at least. You'll never know if you don't go.

 

[Jason]

I'd go for it. You don't want to look back on your life wondering "what if?". You'll never know if you don't give it a go. You've got to risk it to get the biscuit.

 

[JCPHN]

Thanks for the advice, guys.

 

[nowwhat]

Sack up and let us know how it goes. Humiliation never killed anyone.

 

[NovaScotia Aspie]

Go for it. Even better if you get the new job so you don't work in the same place. Most of my relationships involved people I worked with. After all, I don't "date" at all in the traditional sense.

The downside is when you break up for whatever reason, and still have to work in close proximity of one another.

When I think about it, for Neuroytpicals it would almost be easy to generalize and say, "Don't look for a relationship at work." But in all honesty for many Aspies, it might be our best- or even only real chance.

I agree. Traditional dating is difficult for Aspies . At least in the workplace most people (even Aspies ) are relatively comfortable and are more likely to attract someone . I cringe every time I hear someone say "don't look for a relationship at work " as if Aspies or anyone has an unlimited pool to select from .