tryingtoregister
Well-Known Member
Hi all,
I have been looking around the forum reading various threads and have been finding I am really learning a lot, it feels good to know there are other people in the world who struggle with some of the same things I do. I have noticed that a lot of the active members on this website tend to speak of there personal anxieties (which we all share) and how they deal with them. I wonder what you guys think of how I handle it, I sometimes wonder if it is the healthiest way to go about it and I feel like I could really learn from you guys/gals..
I basically disregard my anxiety. I kind of just put myself out there, and hope for the best. This often-times is met with less then favorable results, but I just don't know how else to do it. I can only imagine the amount of time I could spend trying to figure out what people mean with there facial expressions/voice tone/body language but I have largely given up (unless I know a person well, where I try to memorize their ticks and logically conclude their feelings). In the last year alone I've had 3 separate people ask me if I have bi-polar disorder amongst other embarrassing attempts to understand my poor communication skills.. (its most frustrating is that no one makes the leap to "he just doesn't understand how to communicate with others in general" everyone is so self-centric and say "he can't communicate with authority figures" or "he struggles to speak to women" or "he just is shy in bars" without ever realizing its all encompassing.. sigh). When I feel the lack of understanding and the anxiety of not knowing what anyone is meaning I just shove it aside and hope for the best that I don't just make a fool of myself (which happens more often than I care to admit).
I wonder if anyone else has other or more effective methods they've developed in their lives?
I have been looking around the forum reading various threads and have been finding I am really learning a lot, it feels good to know there are other people in the world who struggle with some of the same things I do. I have noticed that a lot of the active members on this website tend to speak of there personal anxieties (which we all share) and how they deal with them. I wonder what you guys think of how I handle it, I sometimes wonder if it is the healthiest way to go about it and I feel like I could really learn from you guys/gals..
I basically disregard my anxiety. I kind of just put myself out there, and hope for the best. This often-times is met with less then favorable results, but I just don't know how else to do it. I can only imagine the amount of time I could spend trying to figure out what people mean with there facial expressions/voice tone/body language but I have largely given up (unless I know a person well, where I try to memorize their ticks and logically conclude their feelings). In the last year alone I've had 3 separate people ask me if I have bi-polar disorder amongst other embarrassing attempts to understand my poor communication skills.. (its most frustrating is that no one makes the leap to "he just doesn't understand how to communicate with others in general" everyone is so self-centric and say "he can't communicate with authority figures" or "he struggles to speak to women" or "he just is shy in bars" without ever realizing its all encompassing.. sigh). When I feel the lack of understanding and the anxiety of not knowing what anyone is meaning I just shove it aside and hope for the best that I don't just make a fool of myself (which happens more often than I care to admit).
I wonder if anyone else has other or more effective methods they've developed in their lives?