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I seem to develop feelings for aspie girls and only aspie girls

Kevlin

Kevlin

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and I end up getting my heart broking because they are so heartless, why is it that I only fall for people with Asperger Syndrome? I have yet to meet a decent girl, it seems they are all cold and heartless. Are asspies really witches that cast a love spell on me? why are these witches doing this to me...
 
I assure you we're not witches. If we seem cold and heartless, it's most likely because of our difficulty socializing, not anything you did. Trust me. And you sound quite young. You'll meet "a decent girl" in due time.

Welcome to AspiesCentral, by the way.
 
You are attracted to cold and heartless witches who are not decent, and now you're blaming all female aspies? A bit unfair don't you think?
 
Yes, Ereth is right. You'll find that both men and women can both have bad experiences, but that doesn't necessarily condemn any group. There are couples online who are Aspies dating Aspies, or mixes of NT and ASD, but the same can even be said for NTs dating NTs. Some couples have good experiences, some with bad; it happens to a lot of people.

It could simply mean we have either found someone who is not right for us, or could have simply misunderstood them. Of course there are some people who aren't very nice, but a lot of the time you'll find it's just a bad situation, and it may not be anyone's fault.
 
To add to what Vanilla just said, this is true of everybody, and not just people with autism.
 
Christy said:
You are attracted to cold and heartless witches who are not decent, and now you're blaming all female aspies? A bit unfair don't you think?
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I agree with Christy. YOU are the one responsible, not us. Please don't go blaming anyone for who they are. Thank you.
 
How many times has this happened? I know from personal experience, that when one has suffered a recent broken heart, the experience is so powerful that the temptation can be to create negative universal generalizations.
 
Ste11aeres said:
How many times has this happened? I know from personal experience, that when one has suffered a recent broken heart, the experience is so powerful that the temptation can be to create negative universal generalizations.
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I liked 2 girls with aspergers just flat out broke contact with me and one said "I want nothing to do with you" and I have never had a girlfriend, the world is mean and sad and have depression, and now I have no hope with girls ever I always feel like they can leave me at any moment or will. heartless and shameless.
 
Kevlin said:
I liked 2 girls with aspergers just flat out broke contact with me and one said "I want nothing to do with you" and I have never had a girlfriend, the world is mean and sad and have depression, and now I have no hope with girls ever I always feel like they can leave me at any moment or will. heartless and shameless.
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You are experiencing a lot of pain. But the thoughts that the pain makes you believe are not true. No matter how it see right now, you do have hope both for a future loving relationship and future happiness.
 
We Aspie girls are just like NT girls - we are a widely varied bunch with a capacity for all things. I doubt the girls you have been involved with have been "cold" or "heartless and shameless" because of their ASD.

I would not attribute any of those features with myself, or any other Aspie girl I know.
 
Kevlin said:
I liked 2 girls with aspergers just flat out broke contact with me and one said "I want nothing to do with you" and I have never had a girlfriend, the world is mean and sad and have depression, and now I have no hope with girls ever I always feel like they can leave me at any moment or will. heartless and shameless.
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I'm sorry that happened to you, but two girls do not represent everyone with ASD. I'd be telling you the same thing if you'd been dumped by girls who didn't have autism---two bad experiences should not lead you to think that all women are heartless.

As I said in another thread, you should seek help if you're depressed.
 
Kevlin, sad to hear you've had your heart broken. Stay busy to avoid brooding about the recent past with a love. The Aspie women here are very talented, patient, wise and intelligent. But as one woman here mentioned? {I think?} they can be like NT women.

What this means to me is Mothernature programmed most women and men to act in certain ways. Persistence...I can so easily get upset by my ex-wife and in the past blame most women...but today I remember there are so many good women who lift up my heart...that I forget the few bad women.

It's a numbers game...now if you said you dated 10, 15 or 50 Aspie women and they all broke your heart, that would be something to look at. Now is a time to be gentle to yourself, to do what you are doing-to "talk out" your problem...and explore what went wrong. Often I find it's me that went wrong...or just a woman that I didn't click with.

Aspie women are not cold hearted witches [though I know a lot of NT women that are ;P] Talk to older men and older women...patience...I know, it sucks...but don't forget to take care of you. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!

Kevlin said:
and I end up getting my heart broking because they are so heartless, why is it that I only fall for people with Asperger Syndrome? I have yet to meet a decent girl, it seems they are all cold and heartless. Are asspies really witches that cast a love spell on me? why are these witches doing this to me...
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It's quite possible that you're attracted to "emotionally dangerous" people, Sparticus. Stranger things have happened.
 
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The most alluring people seem to be crazy/abusive...while the most stable potential partners are a little boring? Or have I overanalyzed this? :p
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I have to admit, I really go for the crazy ones. Always have. Now whose fault is that? :rolleyes:
 
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