Okay, I need help.
I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 6 months. We met on a Jewish dating site one year ago.
He is extremely normal other than bouts of depression about not being able to find a job (26 year old accountant.)
I even moved from Louisiana to New York to be with him. This is the person I want to be with. We live together with his family.
HOWEVER - we have some turbulence in the relationship. It's my fault. He doesn't want to marry someone who isn't emotionally stable - but I have just come from a very difficult life where many people I love have died, I've been shot at, I've had eating disorders, been very bullied, etc. Bigass sob story.
I am a self-injurer. I stopped for a long time, been going on since I was 12. Lately it's been happening again - I told him about one cut, but the past two times (all in the same week) I have kept secret.
I'm going to get found out when sex happens again.
So I have to pretend now, I realize, to be more okay than I am. I don't like not being totally open with my partner.
Another issue - he calls me a robot. He thinks I'm depressed all the time because I'm placid-faced, blank. Emotionless. I am not emotionless, I can actually be kind of needy in a relationship.
Last night we were watching South Park and at the same time I was on the computer, chatting and doing research. Multi-tasking. Suddenly he turns off the TV and starts talking about how rude I am, and I'm just now aware of how to be respectful, and it turned into a HUGE fight where, to keep me from leaving the room, he pulled my frog pillow (treasured stuffed animal my mom gave me, I carry it all over the house) and I took it as a hostile threat so I grabbed him by the arms and came across as very violent.
He threatened to call the asylum on me.
Things like this happen too often. I NEVER blame my behavior on my Aspergers but this is what causes a lot of it. I can NOT jeprodize this relationship. The other day my therapist called the asylum on me, saying I was suicidal, so I was taken away in an ambulance and my boyfriend came with me and we were there for over 5 hours. He got frustrated. Very.
It's my fault he's in these situations with me, being a psycho or whatever.
Any advice?
I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 6 months. We met on a Jewish dating site one year ago.
He is extremely normal other than bouts of depression about not being able to find a job (26 year old accountant.)
I even moved from Louisiana to New York to be with him. This is the person I want to be with. We live together with his family.
HOWEVER - we have some turbulence in the relationship. It's my fault. He doesn't want to marry someone who isn't emotionally stable - but I have just come from a very difficult life where many people I love have died, I've been shot at, I've had eating disorders, been very bullied, etc. Bigass sob story.
I am a self-injurer. I stopped for a long time, been going on since I was 12. Lately it's been happening again - I told him about one cut, but the past two times (all in the same week) I have kept secret.
I'm going to get found out when sex happens again.
So I have to pretend now, I realize, to be more okay than I am. I don't like not being totally open with my partner.
Another issue - he calls me a robot. He thinks I'm depressed all the time because I'm placid-faced, blank. Emotionless. I am not emotionless, I can actually be kind of needy in a relationship.
Last night we were watching South Park and at the same time I was on the computer, chatting and doing research. Multi-tasking. Suddenly he turns off the TV and starts talking about how rude I am, and I'm just now aware of how to be respectful, and it turned into a HUGE fight where, to keep me from leaving the room, he pulled my frog pillow (treasured stuffed animal my mom gave me, I carry it all over the house) and I took it as a hostile threat so I grabbed him by the arms and came across as very violent.
He threatened to call the asylum on me.
Things like this happen too often. I NEVER blame my behavior on my Aspergers but this is what causes a lot of it. I can NOT jeprodize this relationship. The other day my therapist called the asylum on me, saying I was suicidal, so I was taken away in an ambulance and my boyfriend came with me and we were there for over 5 hours. He got frustrated. Very.
It's my fault he's in these situations with me, being a psycho or whatever.
Any advice?