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I just want people to be kind in here.

from the above quotes :
"just want people to be kind in here."

"Sometimes being kind, and being honest are not the same and you need a large does of the latter more than the former."

Am supposing that the abilty to discern,? which one of the above might be appropriately "employed" at what times in a discussion . Of this type .For instance if a person feels bereft of kindness ,They might title a thread , Just as BrianWV has done in this instance .
In the titling of this thread ?
So perhaps appropriate responses might be in order . ( imho ) As I have never come across a male publically asking for KINDNESS , in my history of 64 years of life . Unless
some sort of possible desperation has ocurred to them . ( Not to say, there is a time and place for suggestions of ways to improve the situation ) .
Just my own personal, insights on this thread, in other words ( IMHO )
 
BrianWV39 said:
It sounds like you have a decent therapist :) I am happy for you :)
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And a damn good female friend of mine.
If I said any crazy crap earlier I am sorry. If it was not for her earlier today. I broke down and cried bad. She is normally use to it but today it was really bad because of what was said here out how I was treated in the world NYC and the risperdal.
 
Money can buy looks, money can buy popularity, money can buy talent, and money can buy love, it can buy power, it can buy friends. Money can buy one or as many lovers as you desire. Money can buy rank, money can buy honor, and if some churches are to be believed it can buy you a place in heaven. Money can buy you fame, money can buy you intelligence, and money can buy you a favorable eulogy.

Whether in this life or the next the one and only thing money cannot buy is taste.
 
I feel nobody should feel pressure to change as long as they are not hurting others and themselves to require legal intervention or hospitalization. I mean, the op seems like a very decent and intelligent person, and I see just as many if not more good and great things from him than in so many others in this society. Everybody who has as much to offer as him deserves a relationship. Brian expresses through writing well, seems to be self aware and knowledgeable about many things, and he seems more positive and thoughtful than most would be under the circumstances.

This is not to say his opportunities will not be much lessened because of not fitting any cultural expected norm for guys or from any less ability to change or adapt, but just that I believe you certainly seem to offer more than so many others in this world who have been in one or more relationships. You apparently have a good education which shows work ethic ability or capacity, seem not to be too picky with the type of woman you want, and quite frankly seem like one of the few on the many forums I visited who I ever see speak so fully, clearly, intelligently, fairly, and politely, using words like sorry, thank you, and so forth.

To me, the op has pretty decent but not abrasive confidence, seems honest but in a fair and non offensive way, has admitted great resilience and one-to-one abilities and seems likeable and refreshing as an atypical guy. one who is willing to go against the grain and stick up for what he believes in, stay who he is, while not playing those dating and other dishonesty games. The question thus is where to find a kind woman who can who can look past any lack of success, Autism, limited social skills and less money things. and to appreciate you as a person who could be loyal and loving and focus on like the things or traits in you I mentioned.

Maybe look at more specialized places where women can either not want the typical guy, can see you as a deserving guy or fit, have similar abilities or limitations, or who can want a first chance or another chance too, whether writing groups or social anxiety and shyness groups; groups where people have strong empathy skills; places where nontraditional people could hang out, etc. I mentioned this before, but I met my wife through a writing online group. She was not the picky and traditional woman type who obsessed about a guy's much confidence or success . She saw my strengths, and I saw hers. We gave each other a chance. Things were and are not easy, but we are still together almost 20 years later because of many similarities and/or opposite abilities or needs. Neither of us are obsessive about money and job status as well . We get by fine and have had lots of fun. Money and success cannot buy true commitment and love.
 
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BrianWV39 said:
Money can buy looks, money can buy popularity, money can buy talent, and money can buy love, it can buy power, it can buy friends. Money can buy one or as many lovers as you desire. Money can buy rank, money can buy honor, and if some churches are to be believed it can buy you a place in heaven. Money can buy you fame, money can buy you intelligence, and money can buy you a favorable eulogy.

Whether in this life or the next the one and only thing money cannot buy is taste.
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Are you saying women don't like you because they have a bad taste in men and that it's their fault you are single?
 
BrianWV39 said:
Money can buy looks, money can buy popularity, money can buy talent, and money can buy love, it can buy power, it can buy friends. Money can buy one or as many lovers as you desire. Money can buy rank, money can buy honor, and if some churches are to be believed it can buy you a place in heaven. Money can buy you fame, money can buy you intelligence, and money can buy you a favorable eulogy.

Whether in this life or the next the one and only thing money cannot buy is taste.
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Money can be very influential because pragmatism is very important in this less-than-perfect life system.

Money is not important if you believe in pink unicorns, live off candy floss, and ride rainbows to pots of gold. 🌈
St Patricks Day Good Luck GIF
 
Yeshuasdaughter said:
Support without advice sounds to me like what a person would want is:

Person one: I'm going to jump off a cliff.

Person two: You live your best life. All right! You go girl!
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Support can involve listening and emotional understanding.
I.E. Empathy.

Support does not involve criticism and forcing opinions down someone's throat.
It is interesting that most women understand this.

I have mixed with autistic communities since the BBC days, and have see a plethora of comments, from women, who have said the above.

The problem that has been pointed out, by women, is that autistic males focus on solving problems when they don't want unsolicited advice.
 
velociraptor said:
Not finding better looks on either Amazon or TEMU.

Got any pointers on what search terms to use?
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Check Ali Baba ... ? yet ..? Lolz .. search terms ... robot women ? Think Brian might be better off than you in his results .. lolz but , maybe you could get lucky. ... 😝
 
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