I have no friends. No, I can't make new ones. I tried and it's making me mentally insane.

[Judge]

I want to see Megan 2.0 kept saying but no no one will go with me and I will never go by myself.

Ironically I have been to movie theaters most of my life going all by myself. Though it's going to a restaurant or a coffee shop that I would never do alone. Go figure.

 

[Tony Ramirez]

It still sucks last movie I saw and ironically it was by myself was The Looney Toons Movie with Brandon Fraser because no one would go with me. I have a digital copy of it.

 

[thejuice]

I go by myself to loads of places. Being around people is better than complete isolation. It's like socialising with no commitment to boring small talk. It's none of my business if people think I'm a saddo. They might think they wish they had the guts to do stuff alone, who knows!!

 

[thejuice]

It still sucks last movie I saw and ironically it was by myself was The Looney Toons Movie with Brandon Fraser because no one would go with me. I have a digital copy of it.

I've been to cinema alone, during the day, in an nearly empty theater. No people talking, best seat in the house. It gave me a mission in to town, it was great!

Have you ever tried a MMO game like Warcraft or something. That might feel like socialising, you could join a clan. It would also provide some kind of purpose to your life, even if it's a simulation of purpose. Brain can't tell difference.

There are also online games built for socialising. There was a popular one 25 years ago called 'second life.' You built a completely new life online. It's a pressure free way to meet people.

 

[Dagan]

I was about to suggest gaming options, as well. The conversation opportunities with online gaming is a great testing ground for socializing.

 

[Tony Ramirez]

I did online gaming during my 15 years of not going out, socializing, not being a Christian. I got bored with it after a couple of years. But at least I was not a miserable person who hated couples and people traveling. I still wanted a female friend girlfriend though, but I was not obsessed.

 

[thejuice]

I did online gaming during my 15 years of not going out, socializing, not being a Christian. I got bored with it after a couple of years. But at least I was not a miserable person who hated couples and people traveling. I still wanted a female friend girlfriend though, but I was not obsessed.

With a lot of things In life, the poison is the dose. Becoming addicted to gaming, to the exclusion of everything else, is not good. Ideally you would achieve a balance of going out and your online social life.

Ever thought about being an artist, a lot of artists channel primordial urges in to their art. I know you said hobbies messed up your life, but it's probably your expectations that disappointed you more than anything.

What about being a photographist? Must be a lot of interesting things in NYC to take pictures of.

If we dial down the expectations we can achieve small goals first. Start knitting together small wins and you'll get the confidence for bigger things to start happening. Your aura will grow, you'll fill the room more and become an attractive force. Put downs will skim off you. You won't even react.

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step

 

[Steelbookcollector217]

Tony, that’s what I have been trying to suggest to you. Once a week therapy is not enough. You can get a higher level of care so you are not so “on your own.”

You can ask your therapist or the crisis center about inpatient care or “iop” (intensive outpatient program). It’s not therapy. It’s serious psychiatric care for people like you who are at risk of hurting themselves or someone else.

Crisis number that serves Brooklyn and Queens:
718-722-6001
and their website: Brooklyn Mobile Crisis Team
Or call 988
Or go to the emergency room

yeah Tony has a major serious mental illness, due to being constantly prone to having nervous/mental breakdowns, even out in public, but also, i think his parents/family failed him a lot.

 

[velociraptor]

Most of those all have the same common denominator- socializing with others

I walk solo most of the time. I do yoga in private. I play video games in private. I play board games against computer opponents. I avoid gyms since covid and exercise in private. I like it this way.

 

[Aspychata]

Alot of people do things solo. Often times l want to get things done but it won't fit another person's schedule, but it doesn't mean that my friends don't like me, it just means they have their own busy schedule.

 

[Judge]

I go by myself to loads of places. Being around people is better than complete isolation. It's like socialising with no commitment to boring small talk. It's none of my business if people think I'm a saddo. They might think they wish they had the guts to do stuff alone, who knows!!

Good point. While I do exist in near isolation, it doesn't mean I remain locked behind my door all the time. Nope-nope-nope. I get out to keep from going stir-crazy as well. Also as a retired senior citizen to remain physically active, walking a lot even when I have no particular place I need to be.

And even if in most circumstances wherever I go I may not speak to a single soul. But yeah, I do have to get out and stay connected with the world, even if it doesn't involve the spoken word each time.