I hate my roomate. and I hate everyone here (community college) (Dorm)

[Kevlin]

everyday is miserable for me. I don't like what these people do with their time, their money, and their overall just jackasses, theyre either really lazy and controlling ****s like my roommate, or just really delusional and are assholes to anyone that gets in the way of their studying and getting their degree. college is stressful as **** idk what I was thinking getting a dorm here, everyday is misery.

 

[Aspieistj]

everyday is miserable for me. I don't like what these people do with their time, their money, and their overall just jackasses, theyre either really lazy and controlling ****s like my roommate, or just really delusional and are assholes to anyone that gets in the way of their studying and getting their degree. college is stressful as **** idk what I was thinking getting a dorm here, everyday is misery.

Are you getting in their way to study?? How long have you lived in this dorm? Is it just that you are an Aspie in an NT world?

 

[Kevlin]

what does NT mean I don't do work failing college my mom understands that I cant function here

 

[Judge]

what does NT mean I don't do work failing college my mom understands that I cant function here

NT=Neurotypical. Non-autistic persons.

 

[tlc]

Any way you could get a single room? I had to do that, as it seems 90% of the people were there to party. Not just the roomate but the suitemates too. Prank calls, my stuff coming up missing. Heard a major party going on one night then went to take a shower the next morning and in the shower was a bong and a bunch of broken beer bottles. That was my breaking point. The RA didn't care, her and her boyfriend were stoned on pot most of the time. The extra $$$ for the single room was worth it.

There were also different wings or wards or halls, and later on I was able to get into the one for the older folks and the mentally challenged. The consensus of most residents was that "west hall sucks" because it wasn't the party atmosphere that the others were. But for those of us who were there to get an education and not to screw around, it was great. I was taking 16-18 credit hours when 12 was full time.

Mind you this was 20 years ago, don't know if much has changed.

 

[Ereth]

Talk to your parents. Talk to your RA. Talk to your school about accommodations for people with disabilities if necessary. You haven't mentioned whether your school is aware of your ASD, but if you want help regarding it you'll need to speak to the appropriate people.

If this is just a bad roommate matchup, the process of getting a new room will be much more streamlined.

 

[Autism]

everyday is miserable for me. I don't like what these people do with their time, their money, and their overall just jackasses, theyre either really lazy and controlling ****s like my roommate, or just really delusional and are assholes to anyone that gets in the way of their studying and getting their degree. college is stressful as **** idk what I was thinking getting a dorm here, everyday is misery.

Aspies need their own spaces and what you are witnessing is the hard cold truth because most people are like that, unintelligent, belligerent, crude, invasive: you name it. Aspies notice that right away and they can not live with people like that: it is like that is stunting our capabilities. At work I regularly have to remove myself from such dumb asses, my superiors included. Superiors, hahahahhahahahahahahah

 

[Tarragon]

This happened to me when I first went to uni twenty years ago. I think the advice given is absolutely the right thing to do. Tell people in charge of organising accommodation. Don't take no for an answer. Ask if there is a special wing where quiet people can stay. There was one in my halls of residence, but my mistake was mentioning I liked "music" in my hobbies section on my accommodation form. That meant I was given a room in the noisiest part of the place! It was horrible (hell would be a better description). I got a room in a quieter place in my second year, but by then the damage was done and I crashed out of uni at the end of my second year.

Tell the uni your problems, and I'm sure they have a duty of care to find a suitable place for you to stay.

Hope it works out.

 

[tlc]

my mistake was mentioning I liked "music" in my hobbies section on my accommodation form. That meant I was given a room in the noisiest part of the place! It was horrible (hell would be a better description).

Good point. Never thought of that, that may have been the root of my room problem too. I don't remember filling out any forms, but I bet my mom did and would have put music because I played the bass. Yes I played bass at very low volume and often thru headphones. I went to a community college too.

Also at the time nobody knew of AS and I just figured my problem was the results of being labeled and bullied for 13 years in a tiny school system, started by growth-stunting medical issues. I thought things would change with a fresh venue, but no matter where I went in life the same old problems followed. Since learning about autism, and finding this forum, I now have much better answers.

But yes, lots of other good advice posted here about people to talk to, and hopefully the place will work with you. They lose money if you don't come back so it's in their best interest to work with you.

 

[Tarragon]

Also at the time nobody knew of AS and I just figured my problem was the results of being labeled and bullied for 13 years in a tiny school system, started by growth-stunting medical issues. I thought things would change with a fresh venue, but no matter where I went in life the same old problems followed. Since learning about autism, and finding this forum, I now have much better answers.

I too, went to uni thinking I'd be leaving all the problems behind. When I found uni to be full of the same types of people I got very depressed about it. This was the early 90s, and I was totally unaware of Aspergers. I wish I knew then what I know now