I find my life has no point currently.

[Metalhead]

I do not necessarily want to die but I have found ways to flirt with self destruction that I need to stop.

I feel like I have no aim, no purpose, no use to anybody. I want to feel like I am a part of something larger than myself. I want a sense of direction. I want to feel like I am helping others in one way or another.

Limited transportation makes this difficult.

I feel like there is more to life than my TV and the Internet, with all of its porn and its drama. I know I have just been coasting through life for a long while.

 

[Metalhead]

I have grown far too comfortable in my miserable existence. That is my own fault. Only I can walk away from living like this.

 

[Kayla55]

I find this world has no seeming point, it's all my wasted effort drowning to give life to those who grabbed what they never made themselves,
Hence my despair is state of hopelessness but not sure if it's me or trying to live in this world anymore.

Cheer up, all feel this way

 

[Mary Terry]

I do not necessarily want to die but I have found ways to flirt with self destruction that I need to stop.

I feel like I have no aim, no purpose, no use to anybody. I want to feel like I am a part of something larger than myself. I want a sense of direction. I want to feel like I am helping others in one way or another.

Limited transportation makes this difficult.
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I feel like there is more to life than my TV and the Internet, with all of its porn and its drama. I know I have just been coasting through life for a long while.

Can you sign up for one or two online classes? Take any topic that interests you but it could also be a class that could help you boost your earning potential.

 

[Coxhere]

I do not necessarily want to die but I have found ways to flirt with self destruction that I need to stop.

I feel like I have no aim, no purpose, no use to anybody. I want to feel like I am a part of something larger than myself. I want a sense of direction. I want to feel like I am helping others in one way or another.

Limited transportation makes this difficult.

I feel like there is more to life than my TV and the Internet, with all of its porn and its drama. I know I have just been coasting through life for a long while.

The fact that you've expressed vulnerability, authenticity, and honesty in your post shows that you are helping others. You do know, right, that most people bury their feelings and don't communicate from an open, wounded heart as you have done here? As a result, we humans have little opportunity to not only hear the truth from one's heart but also to be able to respond in the same way. This kind of genuine disclosing is helping others as well as yourself, Metalhead.

You've written, "I feel like I have no aim, no purpose, no use to anybody. I want to feel like I am a part of something larger than myself. I want a sense of direction. I want to feel like I am helping others in one way or another." What does feeling these things make you feel? The kind of feel that is one word? Is the feeling depressed? Anger? Frustration? Lost? Confused? Hopeless? Helpless?

When I have felt "no aim," "no purpose," "no use," I feel depressed. Depressed mood puts me into these kinds of thoughts and they are reinforced by memories of an alcoholic, mean father telling me these kinds of things, that I'm worthless and no good. Depressed mood takes me into cognitve distortions. And I need help getting out of them when I find myself there.

Have you had a thorough, physical examination recently? If not, participating in one would be a positive thing. Telling a physician exactly what you've told us here is very important. Are you already seeing a mental health professional? Are you on any kinds of medications to help you with your mood? If so, are you taking them as directed? If you are in any kinds of Twelve Step Help Groups, have you been to a meeting lately? Talked with a sponsor? Worked the Steps? If you have limited transportation, why not try virtual "traveling?" It's like working from home and using the internet.

Some of these suggested ways could help give you some direction and give you some initiative to become motivated. These suggestions could start moving you in ways that will begin to give you the purpose you are wanting.

I've only been a member of AspiesCentral.com for a month, but from my reading a first post that you'd written, I've felt there's something positive, special, and unique about you and your life.

 

[Aspychata]

I hate to say this, l am on the pity wagon myself. Struggling to make sense of extreme stupidity that seems to have graced me 24/7. It's hard, l feel like your post resonates with me.

 

[Coxhere]

I hate to say this, l am on the pity wagon myself. Struggling to make sense of extreme stupidity that seems to have graced me 24/7. It's hard, l feel like your post resonates with me.

You know, Aspychata, that doing stupid things is a human trait, right? Stupidity gracing you makes me think of a little book written by a Jew who spent three years in a Nazi concentration camp before being liberated by the Allies. He was a neurologist and a psychologist. His name was Viktor Frankl and the name of his book is, Man's Search for Meaning. He says that life's purpose is to find meaning in the midst of chaos, craziness, confusion. He's the one who teaches that finding the positive within the negative is what gives all of us a reason for being, gives all of us meaning and purpose. Should you wish to discuss further, please PM me. I'm here and will be here through my last exhalation. . . .

 

[Coxhere]

I find this world has no seeming point, it's all my wasted effort drowning to give life to those who grabbed what they never made themselves,
Hence my despair is state of hopelessness but not sure if it's me or trying to live in this world anymore.

Cheer up, all feel this way

Unfortunately, it is a burden of empaths to feel taken advantage of and to feel exhausted. It's a part of who we empaths are.

Here's some ways that empaths can take care of themselves:
Empaths can prioritize self-care by engaging in activities that help them recharge, set boundaries, and manage the impact of absorbing other people's emotions. This includes spending time alone, practicing relaxation techniques, and developing strategies to protect their energy.

Here's a more detailed look at self-care practices for empaths:
1. Prioritize Alone Time and Recharging:

• Empaths often need significant alone time to recover from the emotional energy they absorb from others.
  
  
• Regularly schedule time to be by themselves to regroup, center, and reconnect with their own energy.
  
  
• Consider this "recharging" time as essential for maintaining well-being.
  

2. Relaxation and Stress Management:

• Empaths can benefit from relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, yoga, and aromatherapy.
• These techniques can help manage stress, reduce anxiety, and promote a sense of calm.
• Experiment to find what works best for you and make it a regular part of your routine.
  

3. Setting Boundaries:

• Learn to say no and establish healthy boundaries with others to protect your energy.
• Be mindful of how much energy you're giving and receiving in relationships.
• Don't be afraid to politely decline requests that feel overwhelming or draining.
  

4. Protecting Your Energy:

• Shielding Visualization:
  Visualize a protective barrier around yourself, like a bubble of light, to deflect negative energy.
  
  
• Grounding:
  Connect with the earth's energy by spending time in nature or walking barefoot to help you feel more centered and balanced.
  
  
• Earthing:
  This involves spending time outdoors and connecting with the earth, which can help shed negativity and promote a sense of calm.
  
  
• Mindful Breaks:
  Take short breaks throughout the day to refocus and center yourself.
  

5. Other Self-Care Practices:

• Journaling: Journaling can help process emotions, gain clarity, and track your emotional well-being.
  
  
• Nature Therapy: Spend time in nature, which can be calming and restorative for empaths.
  
  
• Meaningful Conversations: Engage in deep, meaningful conversations rather than small talk.
  
  
• Self-Compassion: Be kind and understanding towards yourself, recognizing that it's okay to need time to recharge.
  
  
• Hobbies and Creative Pursuits: Engage in activities that bring you joy and allow for self-expression.
  
  
• Healthy Diet and Lifestyle: Prioritize a balanced diet, regular exercise, and sufficient sleep to support your physical and emotional well-being.
  
  
• Limit Screen Time: Be mindful of how much time you spend on screens, especially social media, as it can be draining.
  
  
• Seek Support: If you are struggling, don't hesitate to seek support from a therapist, counselor, or trusted friend.

 

[CurlyGirl]

I do not necessarily want to die but I have found ways to flirt with self destruction that I need to stop.

I feel like I have no aim, no purpose, no use to anybody. I want to feel like I am a part of something larger than myself. I want a sense of direction. I want to feel like I am helping others in one way or another.

Limited transportation makes this difficult.

I feel like there is more to life than my TV and the Internet, with all of its porn and its drama. I know I have just been coasting through life for a long while.

If it's possible on this site, you could follow some of the newer members who are questioning whether they are autistic (like me!) and share your perspectives and experiences. I would find that to be very helpful

 

[Xinyta]

I do not necessarily want to die but I have found ways to flirt with self destruction that I need to stop.

I feel like I have no aim, no purpose, no use to anybody. I want to feel like I am a part of something larger than myself. I want a sense of direction. I want to feel like I am helping others in one way or another.

Limited transportation makes this difficult.

I feel like there is more to life than my TV and the Internet, with all of its porn and its drama. I know I have just been coasting through life for a long while.

I have grown far too comfortable in my miserable existence. That is my own fault. Only I can walk away from living like this.

These are good realizations. Though it is hard to not go the direction of turning them into complaints. But it takes doing things that remove us from our misery.

Do you have any outdoor interests? Is there a small projects, indoors or otherwise, you can think of? A book, or books, you are interested in reading? A subject you find interesting?

Part of why I ask is that it takes us literally dragging ourselves out of the hole, and doing something no matter what we feel in opposition to it. It's a harder task when you have lived your negativity for a long time.

No matter what. There is an out. The opportunities are always there. It just take putting in the effort to see it.

 

[Coxhere]

These are good realizations. Though it is hard to not go the direction of turning them into complaints. But it takes doing things that remove us from our misery.

Do you have any outdoor interests? Is there a small projects, indoors or otherwise, you can think of? A book, or books, you are interested in reading? A subject you find interesting?

Part of why I ask is that it takes us literally dragging ourselves out of the hole, and doing something no matter what we feel in opposition to it. It's a harder task when you have lived your negativity for a long time.

No matter what. There is an out. The opportunities are always there. It just take putting in the effort to see it.

Xinyta, you are a very wise, persevering, and persistent human being!

 

[WhitewaterWoman]

I do not necessarily want to die but I have found ways to flirt with self destruction that I need to stop.

I feel like I have no aim, no purpose, no use to anybody. I want to feel like I am a part of something larger than myself. I want a sense of direction. I want to feel like I am helping others in one way or another.

Limited transportation makes this difficult.

I feel like there is more to life than my TV and the Internet, with all of its porn and its drama. I know I have just been coasting through life for a long while.

Help someone. Now. Today. Even with no transportation there is someone nearby whose life will be better if you do some random acts of kindness.

 

[Masked Man]

Nobody's life has a point. You have to make your own point.

I'm slagging along myself right now. I hate summer, I'm dealing with constant insomnia, tired all the time, grouchy, nothing to look forward to, etc. I have to find things to get some serotonin in my brain. I went for a walk at the local arboretum to see the birds the other day, I look at a web cam of kittens when I can at work. It's small things but whatever works to keep you going.

 

[NB79]

i know i know, some people are like 'religion is bad, shut up' but God has given me meaning, and has in my experienced helped me with my issues, and given me lots of hope in the midst of a lot of issues and suffering.

 

[Coxhere]

Nobody's life has a point. You have to make your own point.

I'm slagging along myself right now. I hate summer, I'm dealing with constant insomnia, tired all the time, grouchy, nothing to look forward to, etc. I have to find things to get some serotonin in my brain. I went for a walk at the local arboretum to see the birds the other day, I look at a web cam of kittens when I can at work. It's small things but whatever works to keep you going.

It's the small things that are infinitely the most important.

 

[Metalhead]

The fact that you've expressed vulnerability, authenticity, and honesty in your post shows that you are helping others. You do know, right, that most people bury their feelings and don't communicate from an open, wounded heart as you have done here? As a result, we humans have little opportunity to not only hear the truth from one's heart but also to be able to respond in the same way. This kind of genuine disclosing is helping others as well as yourself, Metalhead.

You've written, "I feel like I have no aim, no purpose, no use to anybody. I want to feel like I am a part of something larger than myself. I want a sense of direction. I want to feel like I am helping others in one way or another." What does feeling these things make you feel? The kind of feel that is one word? Is the feeling depressed? Anger? Frustration? Lost? Confused? Hopeless? Helpless?

When I have felt "no aim," "no purpose," "no use," I feel depressed. Depressed mood puts me into these kinds of thoughts and they are reinforced by memories of an alcoholic, mean father telling me these kinds of things, that I'm worthless and no good. Depressed mood takes me into cognitve distortions. And I need help getting out of them when I find myself there.

Have you had a thorough, physical examination recently? If not, participating in one would be a positive thing. Telling a physician exactly what you've told us here is very important. Are you already seeing a mental health professional? Are you on any kinds of medications to help you with your mood? If so, are you taking them as directed? If you are in any kinds of Twelve Step Help Groups, have you been to a meeting lately? Talked with a sponsor? Worked the Steps? If you have limited transportation, why not try virtual "traveling?" It's like working from home and using the internet.

Some of these suggested ways could help give you some direction and give you some initiative to become motivated. These suggestions could start moving you in ways that will begin to give you the purpose you are wanting.

I've only been a member of AspiesCentral.com for a month, but from my reading a first post that you'd written, I've felt there's something positive, special, and unique about you and your life.

Honestly, I feel spiritually atrophied. And emotionally atrophied.

These are good realizations. Though it is hard to not go the direction of turning them into complaints. But it takes doing things that remove us from our misery.

Do you have any outdoor interests? Is there a small projects, indoors or otherwise, you can think of? A book, or books, you are interested in reading? A subject you find interesting?

Part of why I ask is that it takes us literally dragging ourselves out of the hole, and doing something no matter what we feel in opposition to it. It's a harder task when you have lived your negativity for a long time.

No matter what. There is an out. The opportunities are always there. It just take putting in the effort to see it.

It is up to me to take the first steps out of this. I am very well aware of that.

Nobody's life has a point. You have to make your own point.

I'm slagging along myself right now. I hate summer, I'm dealing with constant insomnia, tired all the time, grouchy, nothing to look forward to, etc. I have to find things to get some serotonin in my brain. I went for a walk at the local arboretum to see the birds the other day, I look at a web cam of kittens when I can at work. It's small things but whatever works to keep you going.

Well, it has been a while since I saw a great movie. Spending time on the Internet doing nothing seems easier than that: I need to exercise my brain since I feel intellectually atrophied as well.

 

[Metalhead]

This weekend, I am going to take a bus to Seattle to visit a couple of parks and gardens.

Why the hell not?

That is what I really want to do. And I want to turn off my electronics and soak up some sunshine. Hit a Thai restaurant and get some noodles. Maybe see if one of my Seattle friends is able to meet up, but not rely on that as a reason for going up there.

 

[Aspychata]

That sounds like a plan.

 

[Metalhead]

Yeah, I planned a Saturday in Seattle. I even found a Thai place that serves pink soup, a Thai street delicacy that many places do not serve.

 

[Coxhere]

Honestly, I feel spiritually atrophied. And emotionally atrophied.



It is up to me to take the first steps out of this. I am very well aware of that.



Well, it has been a while since I saw a great movie. Spending time on the Internet doing nothing seems easier than that: I need to exercise my brain since I feel intellectually atrophied as well.

Metalhead, as is often the case when I see a word and I want to know more about it, I check the word in the dictionary. Atophied and atrophy come from the late 16th century: from French atrophier (verb), atrophie (noun), from late Latin atrophia, from Greek, ‘lack of food’, from atrophos ‘poorly nourished’, from a- ‘without’ + trophē ‘food.’ "Lack of" and "without" are three words that standout to me. Lack of and without spirituality and emotionality is what you're talking about. Based upon these two things, you know it's up to you "to take the first steps" towards obtaining and gaining "the first steps out of" these two things. See? I told you that I knew you are special and unique. You have an abundant amount of self-awareness!