I feel a lot of unresolved sadness.

[Metalhead]

Just letting it go is easier said than done.

I am doing much better these days, and I acknowledge that. But sometimes I feel like mourning the healthy past I never had.

This can’t be healthy, right?

 

[Progster]

Yeah, same here. I made a lot of mistakes in the past for which I feel guilt, a lot of bad decisions for which I feel regret. Most of these were born out of ignorance, a lack of emotional maturity, or impulse. All part of being human.

If I find myself having these thoughts, I stop myself and make myself think of something else or distract myself with the present. There's nothing you can do about the past, nothing you can do to change the outcome. But you can change or affect your future and present - so better and healthier to focus on those.

 

[Atrapa Almas]

Sadness is an importan emotion that helps up to reflect on mistakes and feel empathy for others and for ourselves (our past selves in this case). As any emotion its not healthy to get fixed on it (could lead to depression), but may be usefull for things like:

- Make peace with your past self.
- Acknowledge you could have acted differently (if you had known what you do know now).
- Reflect on the effect others had on you.
- Let nostalgia teach you what kid proyects that you could not do back then, are possible now.

Some of those things can be possitive. I have found that the more I move into being more flexible and sensitive, the more sadness episodes I have. In my case I think I had this emotion "blocked" and expressed it with anger instead.

I wish you the best.

 

[Neonatal RRT]

Regret: All the should have, would have, could have moments in our lives.

Logically, it serves no purpose. No one is traveling back in time to right all the wrongs in our lives.

You should remember your past,...it's actually quite important,...that's experience, learning, and wisdom,...but eyes forward. You can't drive forward by looking in the rear view mirror.

 

[Aspychata]

You kinda of wonder if you would have been different and what success you would have achieved as a person if you didn't spend your entire life fighting for your existence. I have sadness that we didn't meet that version of you.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

I think feeling sad about the past can be a good reminder to enjoy the present. I feel that I have made progress when, rather than bitterness and anger I can feel sad instead.

 

[Metalhead]

Well, my current AA sponsor thinks my brain is trying to get me back into drinking a case of beer, and he may be onto something there. I do crave that right now. Between the hot weather and the extended weekend, my weaker self really wants to waste some time getting wasted.

That is a terrible idea.

 

[Aspychata]

And you wouldn't feel good about yourself afterwards either.

 

[Metalhead]

And you wouldn't feel good about yourself afterwards either.

Yeah, no beer for me. This kind of miserable is more tolerable than the one I would have if I have myself a hangover.

It is the middle of the night and I am wide awake, I think I will hit my 24 hour gym for now.