Do most women naturally assume or expect that men just naturally know how to get women into their lives,
Women in general do not think about men in that way at all. They don't know what life is like for men because it doesn't interest them.
This has always been more-or-less true, but it's become much worse over the last few decades.
There's a thing you learn in some industries about high-end sales: some customers do not want to be told the truth about what you're selling, or about its relevance to what they want to get done. They want (for internal reasons) impossibly low prices, and impossibly short and cheap projects.
In those cases, the "winner" among the competing sales organizations is the one that tells the "best" lie.
Naturally the customer is always worse off compared with them and everyone else "playing an honest game".
I hope you can catch the connection to dating. Because in the 21st century the whole thing runs on lies, and the best liar "wins" (**). But what they "win", in the medium term, useless to all participants, and harmful to some.
Yes - OFC hotness is a factor, but makeup, plastic surgery, grooming, expensive clothes, etc, are universally deployed to level that playing field. Are those "honest" tools and methods?
Objectively no. Despite being ignored and and obscured by "humans have always done that" and other irrational arguments, it's still true that
every aspect of the game that can be faked will be faked.
