• Welcome to Autism Forums, a friendly forum to discuss Aspergers Syndrome, Autism, High Functioning Autism and related conditions.

    Your voice is missing! You will need to register to get access to the following site features:
    • Reply to discussions and create your own threads.
    • Our modern chat room. No add-ons or extensions required, just login and start chatting!
    • Private Member only forums for more serious discussions that you may wish to not have guests or search engines access to.
    • Your very own blog. Write about anything you like on your own individual blog.

    We hope to see you as a part of our community soon! Please also check us out @ https://www.twitter.com/aspiescentral

I am gay and I hate it when people ask me this question.

Metalhead

8647
V.I.P Member
“What woman would you sleep with?”

My sister asked me that question, and then she got offended when I told her “none of them.” She then said, “Don’t be like that!”

So yes, my sister told me not to be a faggot.

Homophobia is pervasive in our culture:
 
“What woman would you sleep with?”

My sister asked me that question, and then she got offended when I told her “none of them.” She then said, “Don’t be like that!”

So yes, my sister told me not to be a faggot.

Homophobia is pervasive in our culture:
I feel like this might be missing a step.

My thought would have been "don't be like what?"

I've had people tell me to "not be like that" but they meant something different - like my tone of voice or my emotional state that came out in my voice.

Not saying your sis wasn't being a jerk, but clarification may be needed first.
 
I feel like this might be missing a step.

My thought would have been "don't be like what?"

I've had people tell me to "not be like that" but they meant something different - like my tone of voice or my emotional state that came out in my voice.

Not saying your sis wasn't being a jerk, but clarification may be needed first.
I agree. From context and the way that phrase is typically used, I don't think your sister meant "don't be gay". It's very likely that she meant something like "play along with the question and don't say no straight away". Of course, asking a gay male that question kind of makes no sense. But it might be worth clarifying the situation with her, since a misunderstanding is likely.
 
I feel like this might be missing a step.

My thought would have been "don't be like what?"

I've had people tell me to "not be like that" but they meant something different - like my tone of voice or my emotional state that came out in my voice.

Not saying your sis wasn't being a jerk, but clarification may be needed first.
How was I supposed to take this?

My sister was clearly disappointed that I did not want to sleep with any females. In other words, she did not want a faggot brother.
 
She claimed my lack of interest in penetrating a vagina was proof I had misogyny. A damn stupid argument.

Good grief. Lack of interest or sexual indifference is quite removed from any sense of contempt or prejudice.

A stupid argument indeed. Another person to avoid, blood relative withstanding.
 
Last edited:
@Metalhead

So, what females would your sister pick to sleep with?
Has she ever said?
Has anybody asked her that question?

Surely since she's interested in hypothetical questions,
she'd be willing to apply one to herself, right?

😑

Antiphrasis - Wikipedia Antiphrasis is the rhetorical device of saying the opposite of what is actually meant in such a way that it is obvious what the true intention is.
 
Sometimes...and I'm not saying this is the case...but sometimes, folks want to actually know more about different lifestyles and have the crappiest ways they go about even asking. You might want to engage her first if ever a next conversation and just prod her continuously until she explains what it is really is that she wants to understand. She'll likely either cave and start answering...or never talk about it again.
 
Proud to have been on negotiating committee when we got same sex couples health care related insurance coverage, dental eye care. and other related benefits.
 
“What woman would you sleep with?”

My sister asked me that question, and then she got offended when I told her “none of them.” She then said, “Don’t be like that!”

So yes, my sister told me not to be a faggot.

Homophobia is pervasive in our culture:
We here all know you are gay, you mention it regularly. You don't make noise about it or push an agenda. It is who you are, and we (as far as I know) don't judge you for it, and I, for one, have no problem with it. It is your sister's problem, not yours.
 
We here all know you are gay, you mention it regularly. You don't make noise about it or push an agenda. It is who you are, and we (as far as I know) don't judge you for it, and I, for one, have no problem with it. It is your sister's problem, not yours.
Metalhead should not be judged at all. He’s done nothing wrong to anyone here and has my respect.
 
Ok, maybe my response to my sister’s question was a bit too reactionary. I still think my sister was wrong for assuming I was the kind of gay man who engages in misogyny, even though some gay men out there really are like that. I also am willing to admit I was not in the best physical state when I had this conversation with my sister.

I still don’t like that question.
 
Ok, maybe my response to my sister’s question was a bit too reactionary. I still think my sister was wrong for assuming I was the kind of gay man who engages in misogyny, even though some gay men out there really are like that. I also am willing to admit I was not in the best physical state when I had this conversation with my sister.

I still don’t like that question.
Plenty of manosphere men hate women.
Maybe your sister refuses to accept you're gay.
 
Last edited:

New Threads

Top Bottom