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How to develop self discipline when on the spectrum?

Discussion in 'Help and Support' started by KagamineLen, May 28, 2021.

  1. watersprite

    watersprite inadvertent vagabond V.I.P Member

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    Au Naturel Au Naturel

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    This! This! This!
     
  3. Au Naturel

    Au Naturel Au Naturel

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    People with ADD/ADHD, depressed people, bipolar people, and people on the spectrum are known to be especially vulnerable to this.

    The DSM-V calls it "impulse control disorders not otherwise specified."

    Impulsive behaviors persist because there's a ping of dopamine or other pleasurable chemistry associated with them. It originates with the body's way of rewarding behavior with survival value. Shopping is a good example because it is functionally equivalent to finding a bush with sweet berries on it or stumbling onto a freshly dead wildebeest. That instinct is often less than useful in a modern world but the instinct and behavior remain.

    We all need occasional pings of such chemistry. It is built into us. If you suddenly stop getting them from other sources you go and do that which you know will provide. It is rough when other sources of satisfaction are not available. You need to find your way out of your current funk and start getting pings from other sources. And tear up your credit/debit cards or at least make them inaccessible and only carry enough cash to buy exactly what you decide you need before you go shopping. Make a written list. That will force you to look elsewhere for pings.

    The proprietors of businesses are all well aware of the power of the dopamine pings that spending can provide. It is part of the business plan.
     
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    unperson Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    oh I like it but I'd be guessing OP prefers other stuff, I like red, but I make myself buy white because it's easier for me to say no to.
     
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    It is good to have knowledge of ourselves both academic, scientific and from intentional introspection.

    Some may be content with knowing why then again some
    want to change their behavior.
    The op asked how to develop self discipline.
    How can we address the how part?
    Does Sapolsky do so, somewhere in the Standord lectures or his books?
     
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  6. KagamineLen

    KagamineLen Video game and movie addict.

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    Yeah, I do have problems with impulse control. I will bring this up to my therapist in a few days from now.

    I hate all wine, but I do love craft beers and IPAs. I also love bourbon, but good bourbon is usually outside my price range.
     
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  7. Aspychata

    Aspychata Serenity waves, beachy vibes

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    My take is that living in the moment and making conscious correct choices beats everything else. You adult, you hold yourself accountable.
     
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  8. KagamineLen

    KagamineLen Video game and movie addict.

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    Of course, you are correct. I am an adult and I know the difference between right and wrong, I just find it hard to care about that difference when I feel like my life is devoid of purpose and that is entirely my own fault.
     
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    @KagamineLen If you can, try and expose yourself to some new things every day. Whether it is YouTube videos or an event or hiking a new trail or taking a class. Something will click to give you inspiration and set you off in a new direction. Hang in there friend! If you feel you are at rock bottom, then the only direction left is UP!
     
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