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High school reunion

daniegirl6224

daniegirl6224

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I’m pretty sure I know the answer but am hoping to feel some validation.

My 20 year high school reunion is coming up. Should I go? My reason for going is fear of missing out. Reasons for not going: I didn’t really connect with people in high school who would be there, and I would most likely get overstimulated and not enjoy it. But I don’t want to miss out. Thoughts?
 
The only thing you would likely be missing out on would be further lack of connection.

I attended my 5th and 10th HS reunions, and none since then. My 50th is this coming October, and I am not attending that one, either.

If any classmates want to know how I'm doing, then they can just read my FB page.
 
I have always thought about going to a high school reunion. To me the judgements come back to whether I would enjoy it enough to make it worth traveling the 400 miles and take the risk of being miserable there. On the other hand I've wanted to go to a reunion in order to show people that I've turned out pretty happy in my life and have done all kinds of interesting things, and I might even surprise myself by having fun there.
 
daniegirl6224 said:
I didn’t really connect with people in high school who would be there, and I would most likely get overstimulated and not enjoy it. But I don’t want to miss out. Thoughts?
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I think you put that rather well. With many of us having similar sentiments.

I think you'll work the problem to a logical conclusion.
 
Went to one reunion, was OK no plans on going to another one. Anticlimactic. Great band for dance after nobody other than me noticed. I think they wondered who I was watching them. I know talent when I see it.
 
When I left school at the age of 16 it was with the fervent hope that I would never see any of them ever again.

Some wishes do come true. :D
 
I might go to my 50th. Our numbers have certainly thinned out some, and I wasn't available for the previous ones.

Or not. I don't know
 
I've attended some high school reunions, most recently our 50th reunion. My take on it is that the people who were extremely popular in high school (cheerleaders, football players, etc.) turned out to be rather dull, pedestrian people who seemed to hit the pinnacle of their success while they were in high school. But the "nerds" and introverts turned out to have interesting jobs and lives. I spent most of my time talking to them. It surprised me how many of my classmates have already died or are in nursing homes with dementia or whatever.

I don't know if I'll go to the next one. They are excruciatingly boring for my husband to attend, needless to say.
 
Mary Terry said:
I've attended some high school reunions, most recently our 50th reunion. My take on it is that the people who were extremely popular in high school (cheerleaders, football players, etc.) turned out to be rather dull, pedestrian people who seemed to hit the pinnacle of their success while they were in high school. But the "nerds" and introverts turned out to have interesting jobs and lives. I spent most of my time talking to them. It surprised me how many of my classmates have already died or are in nursing homes with dementia or whatever.

I don't know if I'll go to the next one. They are excruciatingly boring for my husband to attend, needless to say.
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Cheerleaders/football players....That's well documented in "Jack and Diane" where these two "peaked" in High School and all life after was downhill. SO sad. I was happy to leave HS, having only a few (3-4?) friends after 6 years together. But I knew by name and reputation almost everybody, and I do go to the reunions -by myself, as my wife would be bored to tears - and I do talk with the other ones who were social outcasts during our teen years, and yes, they may have hit their stride later in life but they all, for the most part have gone on to do interesting and fun things and they often concede that had they known the "today" version of me we would have been friends in HS after all!

So? Go, or not go? If you're ok with yourself at this point in your life, I would say go, and let the others see that you have turned out well. You may find that the release of old thoughts is invigorating and uplifting and a weight you were carrying and did not know it, and you can happily shed it.
 
I'd go to one if or when I have one. I'd like everyone to see the new me, how much I've changed from that pathetic immature little weirdo to what I am now. I know people would interested in me even though I was unpopular at school. We'd all be adults and probably have all changed and my social skills are better too so I'd be able to chat and everything.

But that's just me.
 
All they would want to know is what happened to that weird very bright family. Or what happened at work you mean he's related to the drummer of that rock band, that weird guy I worked with is related to a member of a band I really liked in the 1980's. I gave a work mate a signed copy of a vinyl album I had I'm not a collector do not like vinyl.
Gave it to him prior to retirement. He showed it to his friends.
 
Yes, l don't have any great memories of high school. So glad to be free of that timeframe. I was extremely introverted, painfully shy and my naturally dark hair, and pale skin made me feel like l stood out too much.
 
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