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hey is this sorta okay or not.....

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by Aspychata, Oct 16, 2019.

  1. Aspychata

    Aspychata My Art Work

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    So l need to ask someone what is their touch preference is? Sometimes it fluctuates? Should l ask okay touchy about touch or not so much? How do you broach this with someone who you wish not to offend?
     
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    Fino Alex V.I.P Member

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    Who? Stranger? Friend?

    What sort of touch is possible? Hugging? Handshaking?

    Why? Saying hello?
     
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  3. dragonfire42

    dragonfire42 Perpetual outsider

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    I'd think it would probably be okay if in a situation where you want to touch someone in some way, to first ask if it's okay if you do. If you want to touch someone casually during a conversation, I think it would be fine to just ask if they're okay with that or if they'd rather you not. Same if you want to give them a comforting pat on the back or a hug, just ask if they want it. I've seen people do this in conversations on occasion, and have never seen the other person react negatively to having been asked.
     
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  4. Aspychata

    Aspychata My Art Work

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    Somebody l like(blushing). I never asked them so l don't know if l should ask. Guess l worry l haven't been sensitive enough.
     
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    Tom Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    I think asking is a nice idea but unnecessary. If touching is a natural part of your communication style, just do it. If he shows any negative reaction to it, of course stop it then.

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    Funny, but I do agree with @Tom .
    I guess the nurse side of me was more compassionate and I remember one day one of my patients was very depressed and I sat down, and while talking, I just placed my hand on his arm. He said I was the first nurse there that would touch him and it made him feel so isolated and lonely, so I was very glad I had. He was an AIDS patient, and because uneducated people (including medical) are afraid of them they do become very isolated. So someone might appreciate the touch.
     
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  7. AHClemist

    AHClemist noble gas

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    I actually agree with the others here. Don't let my post from earlier discourage you. What I learned looking around here is that most people do like to be touched.
     
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  8. Aspychata

    Aspychata My Art Work

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    Have known them for awhile but was mad at myself not checking what their tolerance is for touch. I think they are on the spectrum, so that means this maybe more important then with NT.
     
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    Wolf Prince My future job title.

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    SusanLR Well-Known Member

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    I prefer not to be but can tolerate it.
    If it is for a professional reason like a message therapist then it is OK.
    I can enjoy that actually.
    I think it is the closeness a hug or touching implies that says no.
     
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