hey is this sorta okay or not.....

[Aspychata]

So l need to ask someone what is their touch preference is? Sometimes it fluctuates? Should l ask okay touchy about touch or not so much? How do you broach this with someone who you wish not to offend?

 

[Fino]

Who? Stranger? Friend?

What sort of touch is possible? Hugging? Handshaking?

Why? Saying hello?

 

[dragonfire42]

I'd think it would probably be okay if in a situation where you want to touch someone in some way, to first ask if it's okay if you do. If you want to touch someone casually during a conversation, I think it would be fine to just ask if they're okay with that or if they'd rather you not. Same if you want to give them a comforting pat on the back or a hug, just ask if they want it. I've seen people do this in conversations on occasion, and have never seen the other person react negatively to having been asked.

 

[Aspychata]

Who? Stranger? Friend?

What sort of touch is possible? Hugging? Handshaking?

Why? Saying hello?

Somebody l like(blushing). I never asked them so l don't know if l should ask. Guess l worry l haven't been sensitive enough.

 

[Tom]

I think asking is a nice idea but unnecessary. If touching is a natural part of your communication style, just do it. If he shows any negative reaction to it, of course stop it then.

 

[Pats]

Funny, but I do agree with @Tom .
I guess the nurse side of me was more compassionate and I remember one day one of my patients was very depressed and I sat down, and while talking, I just placed my hand on his arm. He said I was the first nurse there that would touch him and it made him feel so isolated and lonely, so I was very glad I had. He was an AIDS patient, and because uneducated people (including medical) are afraid of them they do become very isolated. So someone might appreciate the touch.

 

[AHClemist]

So l need to ask someone what is their touch preference is? Sometimes it fluctuates? Should l ask okay touchy about touch or not so much? How do you broach this with someone who you wish not to offend?

I actually agree with the others here. Don't let my post from earlier discourage you. What I learned looking around here is that most people do like to be touched.

 

[Aspychata]

Have known them for awhile but was mad at myself not checking what their tolerance is for touch. I think they are on the spectrum, so that means this maybe more important then with NT.

 

[Wolfnox]

 

[SusanLR]

I prefer not to be but can tolerate it.
If it is for a professional reason like a message therapist then it is OK.
I can enjoy that actually.
I think it is the closeness a hug or touching implies that says no.