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Hello, my name is Brian, I am new here.

tree said:
You are looking, but it seems like few people are looking back.

If you were grocery shopping I wonder which display would appeal to you?

A. flesh ripped from a castrated male bovine
or
B. prime rib

What I'm saying is, style of presentation matters.
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I'm not here to change who I am in any degree. I am happy to be blunt, honest and open about who I am and what I like. I have no interest in changing who I am or even changing the way other people perceive me. If someone does not like me just as I am; then I really do not care.

If people have questions for me they may ask anything under the sun :) I will always be honest. But I am not here for advice or to be changed in anyway. I am just trying to put myself online as much as possible in order to look for a girlfriend :)

That is the one and only reason I am here. I like who I am :) now I am just trying to find someone else who likes who I am :)
 
BrianWV39 said:
This is me now. I do not want advice. I am happy with who I am. If women do not like me as I am then I think they are missing out :)
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It's not so much that women don't like you as you are.
It's that the way you describe yourself is so generic,
it's not possible to get more than a vague general
idea.

Unless a person asks questions, you don't offer a
clear image.
 
tree said:
It's not so much that women don't like you as you are.
It's that the way you describe yourself is so generic,
it's not possible to get more than a vague general
idea.

Unless a person asks questions, you don't offer a
clear image.
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I understand what you are saying. But I am not sure what you want me to say?

What is it you think is such a big mystery? I do not really have any major hobbies or interests. My main goal is to get into a romantic relationship. I spend as much energy as I can in this pursuit.

I am 39, I live in West Virginia with my parents. I am autistic. What else is so important for people to know?

I am not trying to be overly rude. I just do not really know what it is people want.
 
tree said:
That single minded statement doesn't seem to generate
much interest among prospective females, though.
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I have gotten used to the fact that who I am and the person I am does not generate much interest. That is ok though. I am not trying to change who I am. Just putting myself out there until I meet the right potential girlfriend :)
 
BrianWV39 said:
I understand what you are saying. But I am not sure what you want me to say?

What is it you think is such a big mystery? I do not really have any major hobbies or interests. My main goal is to get into a romantic relationship. I spend as much energy as I can in this pursuit.

I am 39, I live in West Virginia with my parents. I am autistic. What else is so important for people to know?

I am not trying to be overly rude. I just do not really know what it is people want.
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I just offered you a better way to present yourself to prospective partners including facts we established about you in another thread, but you didn't want it for some reason I still don't understand.

As they say, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.
 
tree said:
What's your idea of the right potential girlfriend?
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Someone who is open minded, someone who is understanding and empathetic. Someone who can accept that I have been a square peg trying to push through a round whole my whole life and this has exhausted and depressed me.

It is not the end of the world. But yes, I struggle greatly with depression, loneliness and anxiety. I have done my best on my own and I could certainly use some help :) in fact I would love some help :)

Someone who realizes that even though I am different I am dependable, honest, caring, and loyal. That even if I come across as broken today maybe with time, I will not seem so broken :)
 
Wizardry said:
I just offered you a better way to present yourself to prospective partners including facts we established about you in another thread, but you didn't want it for some reason I still don't understand.

As they say, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.
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Well thank you :)
 
I guess it is just very hard to explain to people how different I am. That do not have goals and desires the same way that most people do. That I have lost my hobbies and interests in life due to my depression and sadness over always being single. It is really hard to explain to people.

So, I am not often understood. It is tough at times, but I am determined to keep putting myself out there online :)
 
I admire the op's positive attitude and I think he will find a girlfriend eventually because at least he isn't an angry attention seeking incel tipping trash cans over whenever a woman doesn't speak to him
 
Tired said:
There is a thread there named "Dating corner," but only men write there. I didn't yet see any woman writing here that she is searching for a man on the forum.
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To my observation here over the years, women interested in particular men here manage to connect through Private Messaging. Not open threads for everyone to weigh in on.

That said, I can think of four members who managed to marry one another. Though both marriages ended in divorce as well. Haven't seen any of them here in some time.

I can't blame anyone for wanting to keep such socialization relatively private...male or female.
 
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