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Hello, my name is Brian, I am new here.

Now I'm starting to suspect the local ladies have no idea about you, The way the young ladies acted when my wife's brother changed high schools years ago stunned me, Something tells me your local ladies know nothing about you, Do you socialize in any way in the community.
 
Ronald Zeeman said:
Now I'm starting to suspect the local ladies have no idea about you, The way the young ladies acted when my wife's brother changed high schools years ago stunned me, Something tells me your local ladies know nothing about you, Do you socialize in any way in the community.
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No, I do not currently socialize in any way. Beyond shopping and going out to do basics like that.

I am a homebody. I am just looking to get dates either online or on a dating app :)
 
I suspect if the local ladies knew of you they would be lined up to meet you. Curious as a fellow Aspie what are your special interests, Something fellow female Aspies on this site would be interested in. Before I meet my wife I joined a dating site. got stood up while at work a lady was trying to get me to notice her. Then I asked my new tenant to join me at a bar doing my interest watching live bands play. Shocked my cousin, who actually changed the lyrics of a song to single her out.
 
Ronald Zeeman said:
I suspect if the local ladies knew of you they would be lined up to meet you. Curious as a fellow Aspie what are your special interests, Something fellow female Aspies on this site would be interested in. Before I meet my wife I joined a dating site. got stood up while at work a lady was trying to get me to notice her. Then I asked my new tenant to join me at a bar doing my interest watching live bands play. Shocked my cousin, who actually changed the lyrics of a song to single her out.
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I like sex, drugs, and rock and roll :)
 
Any bars in town, maybe a place that plays blues or social events , my uncle meet his wife at a country dance, she was a lady from the city trying something different. They were your age at the time. He played spoons. they were married 50 years, having come from a rural area when younger I suspect their is stuff going on you may not be aware of like church activities like card parties Up here they play euchre, you get partnered up for the game. FInd out what the community likes doing join in. for me it would have been a tractor pull. Suspect they like their cars so racing .
 
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Ronald Zeeman said:
Any bars in town, maybe a place that plays blues or social events , my uncle meet his wife at a country dance, she was a lady from the city trying something different. They were your age at the time. He played spoons. they were married 50 years, having come from a rural area when younger I suspect their is stuff going on you may not be aware of like church activities like card parties Up here they play euchre, you get partnered up for the game.
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Thanks, but I am only interested in meeting a potential date online first. I am not interested in meeting potential dates in real life.
 
BrianWV39 said:
Thanks, but I am only interested in meeting a potential date online first. I am not interested in meeting potential dates in real life.
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Sounds like you want to take advantage of an opportunity
to craft a first impression that doesn't involve face to face
meeting, to begin with.
 
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Sounds like you want to take advantage of an opportunity
to craft a first impression that doesn't involve face to face
meeting, to begin with.
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I am the first to admit I am very unique. I am autistic, I have a unique world view, I do not value things like money, a career, friendships or status nearly as much as most people. I live with my parents. I almost certainly will live with my parents until they both pass away. I get it I am different.

I can explain all of this right away online. Then the person on the other side can decide whether they want to date me or not. No hard feelings if they have zero interest. I get that I am unique. Maybe what I am looking for would not work with more than one in a hundred women? Either way I cannot just go out socially and find people who would be interested in a long-term relationship with me as easily as most people.

I probably need 1,000 women to read about me to get five interested in me. I can't play with those numbers in person. I am not nearly socially strong enough or emotinally brave enough to deal with that kind of rejection rate in person.

That is why I stick to online and dating apps :)
 
I watched both my sons join dating sites about five years ago, One son, Movie star looks had so much choice ladies lined up to meet him, settled on one who was a star trek fan had a kid her marriage fell apart as, he was one of us, home body Engineer. She wanted someone who did things being active. Other son, more rugged, not as good looking had no luck on dating site, wanted bright women, not bar fluzzy. So got himself trained as a tour guide for city meet women emigrating to Canada. So basically put a plan together worked the plan. Boy did it work. Maybe put a pic of yourself on this site, thread for that. Women are picky that way, will not admit. They want the 2%, my older son was. good looking athletic, bright.
 
Ronald Zeeman said:
I watched both my sons join dating sites about five years ago, One son, Movie star looks had so much choice ladies lined up to meet him, settled on one who was a star trek fan had a kid her marriage fell apart as, he was one of us, home body Engineer. She wanted someone who did things being active. Other son, more rugged, not as good looking had no luck on dating site, wanted bright women, not bar fluzzy. So got himself trained as a tour guide for city meet women emigrating to Canada. So basically put a plan together worked the plan. Boy did it work. Maybe put a pic of yourself on this site, thread for that. Women are picky that way, will not admit. They want the 2%, my older son was. good looking athletic, bright.
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Thanks :)
 
My older son's only issue, was all the dinners he had to pay for. Got more than his fill of sex. So if you got the looks
it may work need to be among the 2% like him, or forget it. Why my younger son went to plan B. which worked.
 
Hard to buy dinner with limited funds. Older Son manager had what the ladies were looking for. If you are not a In his rarified territory, you may get ignored. Good looking. bright in shape, obviously successful.and at least over 175 cm tall.
 
Great the more you let others on here know about you, the more enticing you get dribs and dabs, until some lady on here gets back to you privately.

Actually your current plan has some logic to it, may work, Retired parents statistically gone next ten years, could support lady with her own stymied agenda. My lady blossomed, after we meet and got married, Her dad had her sign up for computer courses, she was not interested dropped out liked accounting. So I told her first change positions got job more in line with what she was interested in Then supported her going back to school taking accounting. This is the kind of stuff that will interest them, Would you have their back if they have ambitions, beyond home making.
 
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