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Featured Guys, don't get attached to women you meet online.

Discussion in 'Love, Relationships and Dating' started by Shiznown, Jun 9, 2016.

  1. Tobs

    Tobs Member

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    I am merely going to correct an assumption as to not be misunderstood by others. I do not wish to antagonize my discussion partner. I merely wished to point out that his personal experience, however extensive, is statistically irrelevant both for quantity and methodologically. They all have one common factor, himself. A factor that is not present on a larger statistical scale. This is why personal experience should never be statistically analysed, but weighed and compared.

    I never said you could change someone else's personality. It shouldn't be your intent to. Your mindset affects your surroundings through your behaviour. If you believe something is shallow, you will treat it as such. Generating different results than if you're optimistically open to the situation and don't try to force your own pre-set goals.


    To return to the point at hand: Intimate bonds can be formed over the internet, but as someone's online identity is an incomplete form of their physical presence, romantic compatibility is always an unsure factor. In my experience, which I don't claim to be empyrical, being interested in psyche rather than intimacy results in much more interesting experiences.

    Ironically, I'm not one for using dating sites. I've met people online but it was always through a shared interest or activity. I prefer to begin a (romantic/platonic)relationship on the basis of some common ground. The only thing everyone on dating sites have in common, is their interest in finding an (emotional and/or sexual) partner. Their motivations and personalities cover too broad a range to generalize.
     
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  2. Shiznown

    Shiznown Well-Known Member

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    That wasn't my point and you just like to stir the pot. Remember discord?
     
  3. tree

    tree Blue/Green Staff Member V.I.P Member

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    Once more:
    This is not a personal debate area.
    This is not an area for members to engage with each other
    on an argumentative level.

    Dredging up past history is argumentative.
     
  4. Mathalamus

    Mathalamus Emperor of the Mathalamus Empire V.I.P Member

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    not relevant to this discussion.
     
  5. Tom

    Tom Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    I would re-phrase that to 'guys and girls, be cautious when you establish online friendships/relationships'. It's not impossible or even rare for online connections to work. There is some sort of validation process necessary at some point, but that can occur just in the normal flow of communication. If something strikes you as suspect, listen to your instincts and be on your guard.
     
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  6. Lady Lucifer

    Lady Lucifer Rejected Disney Princess

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    I've been on the internet long enough to know that not everyone says who they are online. Some people are more open online but very private in real life and vice versa. There is also catfishing, pretending to be someone your not. I think this is a fair warning for both genders not just males, and not only that NT and the ND/ASD community.