but I once posted about a custom house key I made for myself that took two weeks and I still love but no one seemed to be able to connect to it and find it thrilling. It was a big project for me and works great.
That is really cool! Can you link to your post about that?
I am also very happy for you that you found a friend to share the flight simulator game with; And happy for you about your new computer; That is awesome!
(I am sorry to not say more about the actual point of your post here ... I just have never heard of anyone making their own key and I want to know how you did it....I am the only person I know who can quickly and easily identify every key I have at an unfocused glance based on the teeth alone...people think I am weird ans cannot see any difference between the teeth and this just boggles my mind....Anyways keys and locks are like visual spatial puzzles so this grabs my attention even though it is not the point of your post.)
If I said something I was not supposed to let me know. I am getting something good and maybe you are not supposed to talk about that too much because someone could feel bad they are not getting something that good. I am not sure about rules like that.
I think you should share your joy.
I don't think you did anything wrong by doing so.
I think this is at least as likely as someone feeling bad about not having similar experience:
Maybe you posting about your joy and finding a friend with as much passion for a special interest as you, and the same kind of communication and detail-orientation as you, will give others who haven't found that some hope. So it could make them feel better.
For myself, I sort of get vicarious joy when people talk about their passions and things that make them happy. (Which makes people surprised sometiems when they learn I have no personal interest in whatever they like to talk to me about.)
Any sadness I might feel about not having a wanted or needed thing someone else has -- that sadness does not stop me from being glad for someone who does have the needed or wanted thing; The two feelings are separate, so I am usually just happy to hear of others experiencing good things, finding joy and friendship and safety etc.
I actually don't even necessarily (
not sure how often anymore -- was not at all normal for me in any context until I was in my twenties...and I am not sure I have ever done it often enough to call it "normal" for me) do any comparison between myself and others unless they say something like "I can do this therefore everyone can" or "this happened for me so it will happen for you, too". Or something that I mistake as telling me what I can do or what will/could happen for me. (I think that's part of why I was so oblivious to how different I am for such a long time ...even though everyone around me could see it my entire life.)
You are a very considerate person -- it comes through very powerfully in how you speak about yourself and others and try to imagine their feelings. I hope you give yourself credit for that. (You're a lot better at it than I am!)
(I say this because I can relate to your concern about doing something wrong and not knowing at all how to guess...
I have that, too, and in my case people usually don't believe I don't know if I have done something wrong or not and often will not tell me when I have...not even when I ask them to consistently....and if they do tell me, usually will tell me only indirectly or in extremely vague terms I have done something wrong but never explain what it is (let alone how/why it's bad/wrong - which does matter because if I don't understand that part I might keep making the same mistake -- be unable to generalize)...
So I often end up thinking everything is fine or it just never occurs to me I'm upsetting anyone if they hide it or pretend they are upset about something else, and so I keep doing the wrong/bad thing I would not do if I knew it was bad/wrong....Or, if I am sort of half-told or get the very strong sense I have done something wrong, then try to change what I do or say to fix it but never actually succeed because I am changing the wrong things and getting no informative feedback; because I don't actually understand what I'm doing wrong and nobody will ever actually tell me...
If that has ever happened to you, I just want to tell you it is very clear to me how much you care about others.
I am
not assuming you make the mistakes I do, though!
Nor am I assuming that you have any need to hear this;
Nor am I assuming you are unaware of your considerate-ness...
I'm just saying all of this in a "just in case" and "Wouldnt it be nice if we all provided each other more positive feedback" kind of way....
I'm not explaining myself very well so I'm going to stop trying now.
I'm sorry I've gone so off topic, please feel free to ignore me!)