Frustrated/angry

[karl]

Hi I'm karl
Often get frustrated or angry
Like now so I thought make a thread and we can share when we are frustrated or angry and maybe just talk about it like trigger and how we cope or help with coping

 

[Warmheart]

I don't anger easily, but when I do, my body really reacts. That can be overwhelming and scary, so I can relate. Zen sitting meditation and T'ai chi really help me with anger and frustration, along with anxiety. It takes time to learn these things, but they help overall even more than just taking a walk in the woods to discharge the frustration and anger, though that helps, too. I wish you peace and calm in both your body and mind.

 

[karl]

I did get a meditation cd from my councilor fi was seeing.for anxiety it was really good but I stopped using.it I should find it and listen again as your right I found meditation does work I can't remember why I stopped
So ti chi I looked at that but dismissed it maybe something to look at though eh
Thanks

 

[Kari Suttle]

This was a good idea. I need coping mechanisms, actually; ever since i started working two jobs (babysitting full time and cashiering part time on the weekend) to pay for school i've been having increasingly worse anger issues. Not like explosive hurt people anger but bad in its own right.

 

[The Penguin]

Many of you know I hate living in Nova Scotia. For the 5 years living there, it's very hard to get any form of support. I don't know how I manage to keep my cool over the years. What I learned if I don't stand up for myself, things won't get any better. There is something making me angry right now. There is a business program. This disability center agreed they will provide me a note taker for class. This is in writing and they submit this to the business program. I'm on week 8 of the program and still no note taker. The business program is taking action as they have concerns the disability center is not keeping their promise. I faced endless issues in Nova Scotia people not keeping their promise. I will be happy one day when I have the money to move back to Ontario as I never faced these type of issues when I was living there.

 

[Warmheart]

Penguin has a really good point. Standing up for oneself, being pro-active, and self-advocating when we're frustrated or unhappy with things really helps us get a handle on stuff. I agree!

Maybe this seems silly, but, take a look at your diet. Hypersensitive ASD bodies really have to struggle to get through all the preservatives in packed, boxed prepared, processed foods. Whole foods are best-- fruits, nuts, cheese, fish, veggies, organic poultry, if you can get it. I can't afford all organic, and I DO eat some snack foods, but, I have developed a list of which snackfoods I can tolerate without a mood swing following them. So, when I do have snacks, I know which ones won't make me panick-y or crabby afterward. Also, if you crave something natural, find a way to get it. You may be subtly aware of a nutritional need, and be a really good intuitive eater.

They say our mood, and our immunity, is in our gut. I'm on a daily probiotic. It has a gazillion strains of happy gut flora, and the bottle stays in my fridge, so the flora critters' food supply stays fresh. Your healthfood store will have probiotics in their fridge, too. This helps me be more resilient, less irritable, more positive... gives me more bounce-back in my moods, I find.

Any time at all in nature helps me discharge frustration and brings me back to a positive mindframe.

Wishing you tranquility and a sense of serenity today.

 

[Pondering]

I cope through listening to soothing music, singing quietly, playing an instrument, writing poetry, petting my pets, exercising, taking deep breaths, crying the feelings out, looking at beautiful colors/pictures, and drawing pictures as well. All of these are great stress, depression, and anger relievers. Even when I am at the peek of my anger, these are very helpful in coping.

 

[Progster]

Yep, I have issues dealing with frustration too, and it often leads to meltdowns if unchecked. My worst trigger is things going wrong with my computer, spilling or dropping things which I do regularly, the wind either opening the shutters when I want them closed, or closing them when I want them open, ordering something from a shop, going to pick it up and them telling me that the order isn't ready and I have to come back tomorrow grrrr! The only way that I can deal with it is to recognise and then try to eliminate or avoid the sources of frustration, or to try to walk away from a situation which makes me angry or frustrated to calm down and deal it with later, go for a walk round the block to try and dispel that negative feeling. It doesn't always work though.

 

[Harrison]

I learnt Taiqi and meditation at an early age, it was my saving grace. In the rare moments I have been pushed beyond my limits I have been frighteningly violent, though the years have taught me to walk away from situations that would cause that. It doesn't stop me acting out the scenario in my head but at least I'm not destroying everything around me.

 

[Nadador]

I went through a very angry phase in my twenties and found relief in Aikido, a martial art with an excellent mental training component that was designed by its creator (Morihei Ueshiba) to reduce psychic stress in intense situations and improve daily life. It's one of the more gentle and collaborative martial arts, so it doesn't attract many unduly competitive, "macho" types one might find in some of the other, related disciplines. Yoga and meditation are also excellent aids to keeping my negative emotions in check, as is art, and spending a great deal of time in nature.

Sometimes, however, I just get pissed off. Especially if it's at a person, I remove myself by saying, internally, "Well, isn't this interesting?" It sounds silly, but it actually works, as it turns a visceral situation into a cerebral one, pulling me outside of the conflict and allowing me to be more objective.

I don't think it's healthy to repress all anger, though. Sometimes a person has to get angry, to stay properly in touch with themselves. There's just the matter of finding the most harmless outlet.

 

[Judge]

I try not to get over-the-top angry for one reason. It's literally mentally and physically toxic to do so.

Learned it mostly from my "type A" father (and his cardiologist) who died prematurely from heart disease.