Bumbalina
Member
I recently came back from a works do in Glasgow that consisted of a lot of free booze and a swanky hotel. I felt a bit annoyed because a senior colleague made a pass as me (knowing that I was married and not interested). I turned him down and that was that.
When I got home I told my husband about it. He's cool and not the type to get all paranoid and crazy about it and anyway, I tell him everything. During the conversation he said "well you can come across as flirty, maybe he misunderstood you". This comment got me thinking because I have never ever perceived myself as flirty, nor have I been told that I am (unless I have been intentionally flirting). So I asked Neil to elaborate and he said "well, you are really chatty" and I was like "so, that's just talking" and his response was "well, men see that as flirting"
So, my question is. Do men see a chatty woman as a flirt or is this a common misunderstanding of aspie men that women are flirting with them when in actual fact they are just being friendly and chatty with no hidden agenda.
I was and remain to be confused and puzzled because like I've said, I'm just a friendly chatty person.
Thanks.
When I got home I told my husband about it. He's cool and not the type to get all paranoid and crazy about it and anyway, I tell him everything. During the conversation he said "well you can come across as flirty, maybe he misunderstood you". This comment got me thinking because I have never ever perceived myself as flirty, nor have I been told that I am (unless I have been intentionally flirting). So I asked Neil to elaborate and he said "well, you are really chatty" and I was like "so, that's just talking" and his response was "well, men see that as flirting"
So, my question is. Do men see a chatty woman as a flirt or is this a common misunderstanding of aspie men that women are flirting with them when in actual fact they are just being friendly and chatty with no hidden agenda.
I was and remain to be confused and puzzled because like I've said, I'm just a friendly chatty person.
Thanks.