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Feeling Like On The Wrong Planet Sometimes

Robby

Robby

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Sometimes I don't know if anyone else feels this way but I just feel like I dont belong it seems like other people run around and do their thing and have jobs and stuff granted, and I do wish I had a job and was independent, but it seems like a lot of people around me are very dull and boring. They get up go to work and go home and then hangout with their boring friends nobody around much other than facebook can talk to me about the things I love. Like old movies, Bette Davis, Alfred Hitchcock films, fashion, astronomy, or whatever. I just find myself being SO bored a lot. I don't have any friends because I basically stay at home because I don't work or anything. I get lonely but I don't know how good a friend I could be because even around people I like I get annoyed sometimes and just want to be by myself a lot. That's how I feel I recharge my batteries. I just feel like most of the people in the world are dull and boring and just kind of annoy me because they couldn't tell you anything about star trek or an old movie. I just find that "normal" people bore me to distraction. And lots of times I just rather be around animals because they can't give you attitude or a judgy look. They just love you.

And I'm always trying to read people's expressions to see if they're judging me, I'm probably totally off base there but it's something I do. I just wish I could tell what people are thinking. This is going to be so hard for me when I do get a job because I have such a problem with letting someone's ways get to me like if someone is loud or a loud laugher or has noisy habits I hate that. But if I like someone I'm the best friend ever. But it seems like most people just run around and go about their business and laugh or talk really loud or just talk about whatever and it BORES me to death. I hope soon I can meet others with aspergers in real life maybe finally then I can have some interesting friends.
 
Robby said:
I don't have any friends because I basically stay at home because I don't work or anything.
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Me having my last full time job working for 2 1/2 years, I had no friends. My co workers was OK but they would't be the people I hang out with. They too typical people, liking drinking, parties, all that stuff.

For me being alive for 32 years, I learned I just don't connect with the norm. I learned to accept that. It still sucks having a lonely life but I refuse to follow the norm to make friends. If you get a chance to read some of my posts, you might see you relate to me in some ways. I hope you find the person your looking for one day.
 
Im learning that too Im also 32 and just realize that I don't mesh with the "normal" everyday people. I am coming to terms with that. Actually Im ok with that a lot because I find "normal" people whatever that even means are SOO horribly dull and boring I wouldn't want to hangout with them anyway. I always found I click best with others like me who have quirky fun interests that aren't the latest dumb music or reality show or something. I am an old soul too so there's that. I went through a bar/party phase but it was dumb I dont get people who go and work 9 to 5 and basically talk about nothing but sports or something dull and then go out and make total fools of themselves getting hammered. Me Id rather go hit up a cool flea market or antique shop or go have a cocktail and listen to some nice quiet jazz or something. I definitely know I am unique and I like that. What I don't like is my continued inability to secure a job I feel I can stomach, that part I hate, because it keeps me back. But hopefully after I get my testing and diagnosis formalized I can move forward with assistance to my goals. My main issue now is for the future how do I find the jobs I know I'd be good at and want, without having the resume or experience. Thats why I need help.
 
I can't say I find NT's boring, well at least ones I associate with, due to my faith, but do find them VERY trying, but the one NT whom I have a close relationship with ie my husband, says that he finds me VERY trying, because of being social phobic to the extreme and hating clutter and certain smells etc.

He is my nemesis and that is hard to cope with, because I try EVERY DAY to be a decent person.

He finds it bizarre that I do not ask for things and says it is all about me. Perhaps that is true, but suspect highly.

It is horrendously tiring being with NT's and my best friend is an aspie lol

It is easy if an aspie lives on their own, to feel every one around them ie NT's are boring, but if you live with one, it makes you look beyond yourself.
 
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