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Etiquette or “proper” manners you dislike

Discussion in 'Off Topic' started by disconnected, Nov 20, 2018.

  1. Vindicator Phoenix

    Vindicator Phoenix Female or neutral pronouns V.I.P Member

    Dec 6, 2016
    Many conventions of "proper" etiquette irritate me, but here are just a couple:
    • Saying "please" - a pointless word; you could remove it from a sentence, and that sentence's meaning wouldn't change; It's supposed to be "polite," but I've heard angry people throw it into their sentences to try to remain polite, while yelling or speaking irritably, so the lack of integrity annoyed me into discontinuing it, in my own speech/writing.
    • Formal dressing - RIDICULOUS! Why should I spend hundreds of dollars on uncomfortable, impractical clothing that's tedious to put on and take off? It's an arbitrary, irrational convention deemed to be "respectful," despite me treating people respectfully, no matter what I wear. It's independent of respect - it's just a mumpsimus! "Fitting in" is no excuse for formal attire, either - the insecurity of diversity-haters births the expectation that others must "fit in." Similarities and differences should be allowed to exist naturally, as long as they don't hurt anyone.
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  2. Progster

    Progster Gone sideways to the sun V.I.P Member

    Nov 23, 2014
    Totally agree. I never saw the point of things like ties - they have no practical application whatsoever. People get my respect because they earn it, not because they are dressed in a suit and tie. And for women, it's even more difficult, these silly high-heeled shoes that they are expected to wear, I have never worn those in my life. Can't walk in them - what's the point of a shoe you can't walk it?? Defeats the object, doesn't it? (rhetorical question).

    Apart form table manners I mentioned in an early post, I also don't really get the whole thing about sending regards to people. I know that I'm supposed to do it, but rarely do - I don't remember and don't think that it's necessary - I don't need people to send me their regards through someone else and don't see much point in it, so it doesn't occur to me to send them to other people and I have to remember to do it to be polite and fit in, Then, when people send regards to me, I don't know what I'm supposed to say or do with it.
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  3. Gracey

    Gracey Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

    Jun 30, 2017
    Know what you mean :)

    I might have someone telling me " oh... [insert name]... Was asking after you"

    (... And ..?)

    Always feels like there's information or a question missing from that statement.
    As such I don't know what to do with it.
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