This must be what we lack. This, and a love of eye contact.
It just has to be. It's the only way it makes sense. We clearly have empathy, social intelligence, social feelings, including friendship…
The science of protecting people’s feelings: why we pretend all opinions are equal - The Washington Post
Was he an expert and wasn't listened to?
There's always a reason why a person so upset about a particular subject...
Anyway, when people work in a group they come from different backgrounds and with different sets of skills, and each person thinks their opinion is important. In the end it's about people's ability to communicate and hear each other, it's also about ability of each person understand and hear themselves. People who have knowledge and the right skills for a particular task are no different from those who don't have the knowledge, if they tell the other party that they are wrong, or dumb. Simply because they as unable to listen, show respect and be open as the ones whom they attack.
If we talk about information that presented as facts by self-proclaimed experts, well, our world is full of it and each supporter of a particular idea think they can call supporters of another idea - lunatics or whatnot. Nothing is a fact until it's proven by many people performing unbiased research and by real life situations, and even then, any fact can still be questioned.
If we talk about a very specific goal, each team has to look at each piece of information presented without attaching it to an individual but see it as a sort of a like a cooking pot where all the information is "cooking", some may be discarted, some kept in order for the team to reach desirable result.
As for equality of opinions, in many cases that I've been observing so far, people tend to put an emotional label of "right" or "wrong" to serve their personal emotional needs. In the end it's not about right or wrong, it's about what each individual team, society, any type of group of people, want to achieve and then review what information, what actions will get them there.
Right now there' re several different directions people see themselves going (I'm talking about humanity as whole), but on the inside those directions aren't as different. When human race "grows up" a little, those goals, directions and opinions will be unified and there will be more logic and agreement in any type of team work.
As for equality, Equality means that each individual deserves equal right to be heard and respected, not that their ideas can equality contribute to a common goal. When I say respect, I'm talking about a person as whole, not a particular trait of him/her or a particular action. When we see a person as whole, with all the experiences, with all the characteristics, with all his genes, history, culture and SEE this one unified being, than we'll understand what this respect is. Well, maybe another word would suit better, but respect will do. I could probably use acceptance instead.
And some people might think, "well... I disagree". And that's exactly my point: the goal of this discussion is to express, not to prove right or wrong, and for that reason every opinion is equally valuable (if we talk about equality as "the same", not general Equality
). If somebody believes that the goal of this, or any other discussion is different, they may say so
I think I'm done. I can try to explain all different angles,"why-s" and "what-s" for hours until I get lost and end up in a completely different subject
so, I'm going to stop
