Dress Code

[Geordie]

That's why... In my dream world, I love meeting and dining with fellow friends in slippers, shorts and singlets

Dress code? Why care about them? I am not 'them'...

 

[dwc780]

That's why... In my dream world, I love meeting and dining with fellow friends in slippers, shorts and singlets

Dress code? Why care about them? I am not 'them'...

I'm not "them" either... but is it "their" world. We as non-"typicals" have to accept that and work it as best we can. Some people don't really need to at all, some need to work it every day of their lives. I work in kitchens. I can be as ****ed up as I like and as long as I do my job well, I'm accepted as a brother. That being said, I can wear a suit and tie and be suave and pretty and charming. People LOVE me, despite the fact half of what I say to them is ******** and the other half is offensive to them and they don't even realize it. \

Like I said, it is THEIR world. As much as we are our own community, we are living in a neurotypical world. WE have to make do the best we can, not the other way around.

 

[Geordie]

Definitely.

This is why I do my best to accommodate to their world if I have to.

If not, I am perfectly ok living alone, and it's my choice.

 

[Pella]

On mackinaw island in michigan there is a hotel where after a certain time of day you can't walk through a certain area in shorts. It was years ago so I don't know if it is still there. We didn't stay there because it was really expensive. And I have seen on movies like As Good as it Gets where you had to have a jacket to be in their restaurant. On the TV show Cheers, they had a bar. Upstairs of the bar was a restaurant, I think they went up to the resturant to use the restroom or something, and they had a jacket hanging in the bar that patrons could put on in order to go up to the restaurant.

 

[2wheels4ever]

A wife beater is a singlet, a tank top.

It's stereotypically associated with low-class people, since Marlon Brando first worn it as part of his character in 'A Streetcar Named Desire', where he portrays a man with ill temper, sloppy and drunken. I use it in contrast to philosophical works that only high-class people may engage in.

I like in some parts of the world, the citizens call them "trouble-seekers"!

But there used to be a steakhouse a few blocks away from me that if someone entered wearing a tie, one of the staff would come with a pair of scissors and cut the tie off and pin it to the rafters, it was sort of a gimmick to show it was a "working man's restaurant" I suppose.

The only time I personally experienced a dress code issue was Grad Nite at Disneyland - now, I believe, slacks and dress shirt are acceptable but BITD it was jacket and tie; I had everything but the jacket, and no ID for a 'loaner' so I had to waste an hour and a half getting one of the school's chaperones to 'sponsor' me and then wait in the wardrobe line

 

[Geordie]

I don't care anymore... I will do my best to both hone my abilities to be part of the core group in management, and to be myself - that is, being myself. My employment arrangement could be unorthodox, but it's my choice and I will just add value to society, in my own way.

One is never successful, as an Aspie, without trying to overcome his Aspie-ness that limits his functioning - as well as understanding what makes him special to give and offer his gifts to others.