does life happen to you? or do you happen to life?

[abby normal]

does life generally happen to you, or do you generally happen to life? IOW, are you the victim of circumstance? OR have you figured out how to bend life to your will?

 

[SusanLR]

Some things I can bend to my will. Others I cannot change.

 

[Shevek]

I used to make bigger plans and often carried through, but most of the details were still determined by availability. Now, I try to live inside a fairly conventional situation.

 

[JayCee]

life happened, while I was somewhere else Was joping someone would offer me a Cliff Notes version of the whole thing

 

[Outdated]

IOW, are you the victim of circumstance?

I learned not to be a victim when I was still fairly young, not to people and not to the world itself. Sometimes life dishes up some pretty hard knocks but I roll with the punches and keep going.

Sometimes beaten physically but never mentally.

 

[JayLapointe]

does life generally happen to you, or do you generally happen to life? IOW, are you the victim of circumstance? OR have you figured out how to bend life to your will?

That depends entirely upon the following question, have I had my morning coffee?

Honestly though I don't think it's ever a question of bending life to your will. Better to think of it as a river and learn to float when you're too tired to swim.

I hate the cliche's of it all but the folks in AA with their serenity prayer are onto something. Changes the things you can, don't worry about the things you can't, work to understand and accept the difference between the too.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

I call it planning, not reacting. Only way to overcome what I perceived was bad luck. plan around it worked for us,

 

[Misery]

I just hit it with a hammer, is what I do.

Doesnt do anything, but I keep hitting it anyway, out of pure, blazing spite at this point.

 

[WhitewaterWoman]

I roll with the punches and keep going.

I don't roll with the punches very well, but I'm very stubborn and will keep at something until it is accomplished or until I am facing overwhelming opposition.

This hasn't necessarily improved my life, but it has shaped who I am.

The Serenity Prayer also means a lot to me in determining what I am going to be up to. Though I tend to bang my head against the wall for a long time before I acknowledge it is something I cannot change.