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Featured Do you hide behind humor?

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by Lichi, Jun 2, 2018.

  1. Gekko2508

    Gekko2508 Active Member

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    I'm fine being the butt end of jokes, as long as people are laughing at the joke, not at me. I wish I was nearly wordly creative enough to hide behind good humour... I'm only stuck with severe sarcasm or abyss-like dark humour. There I have to be careful whom to be humourful with~
     
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  2. Iamnotarabot

    Iamnotarabot Well-Known Member

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    The worst is thay you can say things people will take as humor but when it comes to you and someone says something supposed to be funny well many time I just find it cringy because I dont know how much the person is serious or sometimes if it was realy a joke at all.
     
  3. Lichi

    Lichi Think of an idiot, only smarter.

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    This is the exact thing I'm talking about! You don't find anything else that will help the situation so at least you can make it comical. Sometimes I narrate my own life when things go wrong and I always look at the funny aspect. That aspect is often a dark kind of humor, but at least it keeps me fuelled.

    Sarcasm can also get very funny. Passive aggressiveness can also be very funny.

    Slapstick comedy for me is the preferred version. Anything that can be viewed clearly in a physical form is easier. I also figured that either people laugh at you or with you. If the motivation is laughter then you win either way.


    Well sometimes it's just that you're labelled out as the funny person so often that everything you say gets taken with that intention. I had two friends who were fighting intensely over something. All of the sudden they turned to me to ask what my thoughts were and I did give them a literal answer "I'm thinking of what to eat" They both broke out laughing thinking that that was a joke. I didn't intend it to be, I was just very very hungry. This is why I tend to not partake in serious discussions with that many people.

    I'm also terrible at doing jokes. I'm not able to tone a punchline so the whole joke goes flat. I did consider doing stand up for a while but that dream died when I heard my recording and heard how bad I am at toning jokes.
     
  4. SparklAng

    SparklAng Well-Known Member

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    When I am unhappy with something, I generally isolate myself or leave the situation. If I just feel rather awkward in a social situation, humor is my go to. And sometimes I laugh things off, because there is not much benefit in doing anything else about it. Deep down, prehaps I dont find it humerous.

    Superficial humour, I would say.
     
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  5. SparklAng

    SparklAng Well-Known Member

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    Oh, and dark humour- I guess that would be a shield some occasions. Or prehaps a sword on other occasions!
     
  6. Propianotuner

    Propianotuner Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Throughout different times I've hidden behind substances, toys, games, shows, humor, porn, being concealed in plain sight, whatever method I could get my hands on. Everyone needs to hide sometimes, although a lot of what are considered to be archetypal cases of "hiding behind humor" don't seem that way to me at all.

    Ditto about having abyssal humor. I like to turn everything on it's head and go down the darkest rabbit holes I can find. But is that hiding, per se? I simply get pleasure out of depraved humor.
     
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  7. AllieP

    AllieP New Member

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    Definitely!
    I am new here, and currently self-diagnosed but seeking formal diagnosis.
    Having grown up believing that who I am was negligible at best and unacceptable at worst, humour has been a way of deflecting people's attention from the Me Inside. It has also been a way of defusing certain situations which I have found profoundly unsettling, and of avoiding questions that I have been afraid to answer about myself.
     
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