Do you get along better with people with autism or NTs?

[Poppy98]

Do you get along better with people with autism or NTs?

 

[Yeshuasdaughter]

Oh gosh, It seems I only get along it seems with neurodiverse people. Especially kind, gentle ones with wonderful eccentricities and passions. Total nerds with golden hearts.

There's something I can't help about myself that causes me to be broadly ignored or disliked by society at large. I don't quite know what it is. And I don't want to know either, it would hurt me to know.

I'm very shy though. And I love making friends with animals. Being myself with them. Singing and giving love and scritches and admiration.

The most important thing to me is spending time with my closest relatives and friends, one on one or in small groups. Golden friends are greatly cherished. Family is everything.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

Noticed looking back most of my close friends were or are on the spectrum.

 

[Outdated]

The same as Ronald just mentioned - in hindsight most of the people I got along really well with were neurodivergent, but no one knew anything about that when I was socially active.

 

[the_tortoise]

Do you get along better with people with autism or NTs?

I think probably neither.

Certain things most (never all) other autistics will relate to and understand better than NTs - there are communication style similarities. So talking to other autistics is usually easier. But that alone doesn't mean we get along.

I think I get along better with people who share at least some of my values and worldview (live and let live, equity, acceptance of diversity being the biggest), and my interests, from all walks of life, of all neurologies.

 

[velociraptor]

Probably better with NTs.

 

[Jumpinbare]

NDs, statistically. Majority of my friends I now believe have been ND, now that I know what to look for.

 

[Poppy98]

Probably better with NTs.

Same. I think it's because they act as social interpreters for others. Idk how many other high-functioning/mid-functioning people I've met who were on the spectrum anyway.

 

[velociraptor]

Same. I think it's because they act as social interpreters for others. Idk how many other high-functioning/mid-functioning people I've met who were on the spectrum anyway.

I find they're generally less rigid than many ND folks. We all seem to have our own rules, and not with the needed level of compatiblity.

 

[Neonatal RRT]

Do you get along better with people with autism or NTs?

I get along just fine with nearly everyone. I do think two people with an ASD can relate to each other better in terms of a shared experience... in some cases. On the other hand, there is such broad presentation of autism that... like on this forum... it is individualized. If you spend enough time on here, you will have a few people that you block from your feed. So, personally... it doesn't seem to matter. There are people you like and people you don't... and I haven't been able to find any bias in ND or NT.

 

[Dagan]

All I know is that I don't do well with controlling types, the wants-to-fix-me types, those who love-bomb types and/or the parasite/drains me of time, energy or finances types. Those are all manner of folks, either NT or ND, as I have found out. It's up to me to not be an easy target or fall prey to them, yes, I admit it, but dang it if they aren't upping their game and honing their crafts to have to combat / contend with.

It's like a video game that I didn't ever want to play. Oops.

 

[velociraptor]

those who love-bomb types

Um.

[kicks homemade fart bomb out of site under couch and tries to look innocent]

 

[UFO]

I haven't met much of NDs face-to-face as far as I can tell. There was one obvious case in my previous work place, but other than funny way of speaking he didn't feel any different from NTs. People I have got along with have never had any distinct features from others, just being able to read my way of thinking and me being able to read their way of thinking. So I would say that I have felt equally alienated both with NTs and NDs.

Which means, that I have managed to get along with everyone quite well outside few stupid conflicits, never having any raman or varelse -level communication issues, but never reaching utlänning-level (reference to Orson Scott Card's hierarchy of foreigness).

I have to credit this forum that I have seen less implicit communication and more explicit, so I would guess that I feel more home here than in any NT forums. It took two years to realize that, thought, and I am now much less reserved and more open than I was when first coming here. I didn't expect that to happen.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

I meet a lot of what you would classify as weird people over the years. Now looking back. I realize to others I was equally weird. It never we had common traits,

 

[JayLapointe]

Do you get along better with people with autism or NTs?

I get along much better with other neurodiverse folks. Doesn't have to be exclusively other autistics. It's funny now that I think about it. I only found out in my 40s. But growing up all through public school, then both university and college all of the folks that I hung out with were either certifiably ND, or there was a 99% chance they were undiagnosed. I never thought much of it. Always thought I was an oddball, but never thought I was neurodivergent, just that I had an IQ that put me years ahead of my peers.

Wasn't until I had a burnout and was on a leave of absence from work that an Autistic friend of mine, who also happens to be a Clinical Psychologist suggested that I might be on the spectrum myself and that it might be at the root of my work/life issues. Turns out she was right AuDHD for me. When I finally told her about it she just laughed and said "my autism radar went off the first time I ever met you, I had no doubts". When I eventually returned to work and informed my colleagues their reaction simply was "oh, we just assumed all this time you were autistic. Glad you finally know as well".

So yeah, I get along better with other neurodivergent folks.

 

[Judge]

Interesting question.

In my own case however, I'm not sure I can provide a balanced response having only had direct contact with two persons I thought were on the spectrum over many years.
Otherwise outside of online contacts virtually all my direct contacts and closest relationships were with neurotypicals.

Keeping in mind as well that I only stumbled across my own autism at the age of 55 in 2013.

Then again I can honestly say that of two NTs I grew up with, I have finally severed any and all social contact with them. Something I have pondered for some time. Blood relatives who I have simply had enough of.