Sparticus
Jewish man kissing a Catholic woman....
It's difficult for me to accept that I'm not as outgoing as I'd like. That includes going out. There are lots of times I don't go out for varied reasons including social anxiety. Both my brother and father were mechanics [I always felt it was a lack of a career direction or a good job on my part that contributed to my social isolation.] I thought maybe that was my problem-that unlike them I always felt I couldn't fit into a box. So I'd want to be like them [more macho, less sensitive] but I couldn't. For many many years I never knew what was wrong with me.
I was always having problems, struggles & obstacles to overcome. My father suffered with social anxiety. For awhile I mirrored my father's positive facial tics/mannerisms [he wasn't always in our life so I missed him.] Plus I spent many years trying to mirror "normal" people & reading self help books. After my favorite brother died, I adopted his humor [corny but outgoing.] That's the 2nd time I started coming out of my shell. I figured life is short, why should I spend the rest of my life being shy/having social anxiety/acting less than macho etc.
But it's all a facade. I can only temporary [if/when I can raise my self-esteem] mirror "normal" people. Some people immediately pick me out as being different. That's very painful for me & it seems that it's always a thick skinned person who immediately picks up I'm different. It's as if they unmasked me...I am left with nothing to hide under.
For many years I was terrified [still am] to show who I was to people outside my very close inner circle [when my family was alive or the few people that accepted me.] I'm terrified quite a lot difficult for me to admit this.
But I?ve been kidding myself. Sometimes the social anxiety is very bad. I can?t permanently change myself. Even when my self esteem is raised and I?m outside, I can still run into social difficulties. I?ve been a loner for so long I thought it was normal. Thus I?ve concluded it?s safer indoors.
I was always having problems, struggles & obstacles to overcome. My father suffered with social anxiety. For awhile I mirrored my father's positive facial tics/mannerisms [he wasn't always in our life so I missed him.] Plus I spent many years trying to mirror "normal" people & reading self help books. After my favorite brother died, I adopted his humor [corny but outgoing.] That's the 2nd time I started coming out of my shell. I figured life is short, why should I spend the rest of my life being shy/having social anxiety/acting less than macho etc.
But it's all a facade. I can only temporary [if/when I can raise my self-esteem] mirror "normal" people. Some people immediately pick me out as being different. That's very painful for me & it seems that it's always a thick skinned person who immediately picks up I'm different. It's as if they unmasked me...I am left with nothing to hide under.
For many years I was terrified [still am] to show who I was to people outside my very close inner circle [when my family was alive or the few people that accepted me.] I'm terrified quite a lot difficult for me to admit this.
But I?ve been kidding myself. Sometimes the social anxiety is very bad. I can?t permanently change myself. Even when my self esteem is raised and I?m outside, I can still run into social difficulties. I?ve been a loner for so long I thought it was normal. Thus I?ve concluded it?s safer indoors.
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