Disagreeing amicably

[Geordie]

How to disagree with something i don't like firmly and clearly, without hurting the feeling of the other people?

 

[NeverEnder]

How to disagree with something i don't like firmly and clearly, without hurting the feeling of the other people?

I have trouble doing this. Mind you, I love to debate a good topic (religion, philosophy, politics, etc) but I have a difficult time speaking up and flat-out disagreeing. Why? I am not sure. I guess that I just do not want to get into a heated argument. Some of it is probably my self-esteem issues. I tend just to keep quiet and let the other person wear themselves out with their own opinions (unless, as I stated, it is more of a formal, debate setting with a friend).

 

[epath13]

I usually openly disagree with someone only if the subject is really important to me and if I absolutely have to get my point out there. In this case I don't really care if I hurt someone's feelings or not. Otherwise I just keep my mouth shut to avoid conflict. As for disagreeing without hurting anyone's feelings...I think it's important to make sure the opponent sees that you value his/ her opinion but think differently... Even though it doesn't work with every one of course, sometimes it's better just to walk away.

 

[Geordie]

I guess we all have a lot to learn from conflicts:

If we disagree because the other party said better points, we learn from them
If we disagree because the other party is simply dumb, ignore them but respect their judgment
If we disagree because the other party is not just dumb but forceful and insistent, walk away from them in peace

 

[Streetwise]

How to disagree with something i don't like firmly and clearly, without hurting the feeling of the other people?

I try but its hard to know when I've crossed the line something about memory problems