Difficulty articulating yourself when you're mad at someone?

[Chair]

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[umbrellabeach]

Sometimes I'll get so mad at a person that I say things that I later think were stupid and not the right things to say to get my point across. It's frustrating because then later I think of something more clever and can't say it to them because they're either not around or not listening. And yes, sometimes I want to bash someone's head in... I'll try to satisfy myself by banging, hitting, slamming or throwing inanimate objects.

 

[chinaberry]

God, this is me all over!
I'm dyspraxic so it can sometimes be hard generally. Physically I mean, like the words won't come out or only half out.
But when I'm angry, everything just gets garbled and I dry up too soon.
V. annoying!

 

[Kit]

The problem with me is when I say things when I get mad, I actually mean it so I find it hard to take back what I say.

I don't know how often I say things I don't mean.

 

[142857]

The problem with me is when I say things when I get mad, I actually mean it so I find it hard to take back what I say.

That is me as well.

Actually the only time I get articulate is when I'm mad, I tend to let people walk all over me until I simply wake up to myself that someone is being intolerable.

Then I let fire on all cylinders. And I mean every word, so I can't take it back.

 

[richbebo]

it takes alot to piss me off because i feel i physically cant get angry around people unless i'm really comfortable around them so only really my family, i put this down to fear i might stand out. Even when i am i never actually look angry. I went through a phase where even the smallest thing made me go mental. I am also hopeless at arguing cause i generaly stutter when i do, which is very annoying because i wanna be scary when i'm pissed but unfortunatly i'm not, does anyone else have this problem

 

[smithgirl656]

i actually feel i am better at saying what i mean when i'm mad and less when i'm just talking or very sad

 

[krisi]

When I'm upset in any way, particularly angry, I tend to take it out on myself, moreso internally than externally. That makes external communication very difficult why I'm mad--it just feels like I can't find the right words to tell them why I'm mad, particularly without sounding childish or silly. There's a legitimate reason, but it's really easy for others to take what I'm saying when I'm mad and twist it into something that totally wasn't my intention. I tend to do more of a "shut-down", and it's hard to make any words come out at all, which is often jarring for people who know me to see, because I'm typically rather (sometimes overly) talkative.

 

[Sean2222]

I have very poor articulation when I'm mad at someone. I think this is because all I feel like doing when I'm mad at someone is bash their head the **** in. This makes me forget about what I'm trying to say to them.

In general, I tend to stumble upon my words a lot which likely is due to me saying a few words a day (sometimes none at all). But when I'm mad at a person, my articulation is absolutely horrible. Rather than yell at the offending person, I usually just walk away because my anger tends to cause my mind to shut down; I end up becoming confused and can't articulate myself. I hate this because I always feel the need to tell people off when they deserve it.

Anyone else like this?

It is probably the hardest emotions for me to express. I will always say the most blunt and alienating things that nobody ever forgives. Yet they think they should be forgivven or get out of the wrong things they did to me to be put in the siuation to begin with. But when I react and say what i truly mean they say goodbye to me. Funmy how things work.

 

[alyssa_j_c]

When I'm upset in any way, particularly angry, I tend to take it out on myself, moreso internally than externally. That makes external communication very difficult why I'm mad--it just feels like I can't find the right words to tell them why I'm mad, particularly without sounding childish or silly. There's a legitimate reason, but it's really easy for others to take what I'm saying when I'm mad and twist it into something that totally wasn't my intention. I tend to do more of a "shut-down", and it's hard to make any words come out at all, which is often jarring for people who know me to see, because I'm typically rather (sometimes overly) talkative.

This describes me exactly. I know people, particularly my husband, get frustrated at me when we're in an argument because I generally don't say anything. When I do say something, though, his response usually is, "You're being childish." Damned if I do, damned if I don't.

 

[Sean2222]

I have very poor articulation when I'm mad at someone. I think this is because all I feel like doing when I'm mad at someone is bash their head the **** in. This makes me forget about what I'm trying to say to them.

In general, I tend to stumble upon my words a lot which likely is due to me saying a few words a day (sometimes none at all). But when I'm mad at a person, my articulation is absolutely horrible. Rather than yell at the offending person, I usually just walk away because my anger tends to cause my mind to shut down; I end up becoming confused and can't articulate myself. I hate this because I always feel the need to tell people off when they deserve it.

Anyone else like this?

Of course, it's the the most difficult emotion I have a hard time in expressing. Conflict and anger have caused me to alienate everybody I ever had issues with. Then they never forgive me when it was they who shouldn't be forgiven because they hurt me. But I speak up and then they leave. Funny how things work. But it is either speak up and alienate them or just avoid conflict althogether and keep it all bottled up. You can't win. I have never resolved one fight with any person in my life, never. Not even wioth parents, but in their case they overlooked my words and forgave me because well I'm their son. But with strangers, never resolved one fight and consequently once a fight occurs, the friendship or relationship is gone.