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depression & true grief compromising attendance, but law requires...

Bizzy

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HOW do you explain to the high school what the grieving process and accompanying depression is like (on top of all that Aspie stuff) for our Junior in HS who is dealing with the death of his emotional support animal?
“***” was not just a pet but a true family member and only friend our son had, as he doesn’t interact with other teens outside of the HS classroom setting. His cat-best-friend was so loved and confided in for the last 7 years (he got her when he was 10). She was such a gift to have in his life during critical developmental years!
Sometimes he doesn’t go to school b/c he’s depressed, angry, etc. His psyc said this grieving may be similar to grieving for a sibling.
Well, you know people on the spectrum can have attendance issues. And schools follow state laws about the % of days/time students are in classes. We were barely in compliance until this very difficult development.
HOW do we work out the seemingly impossible task of... not penalizing the student for situations not intentionally created by him and that he continues to have very little control over... and helping the school address the now complicated requirement of having him in class when he wont go b/c he's struggling to work on schoolwork while working through the ebb and flow of his grief?
HOW can we keep moving forward and stop our exhausting work to convince him to go to school on a particular day?
HOW, help, thoughts?
 
Get a note from the doctor/therapist, explaining the depth of the situation.
 
I agree with tree. Also, I'd look into the possibility of them temporarily sending a home-school teacher. It might be easier to learn in the comfort of home. Plus, with home-school they just teach the basic subjects so the day is not as long.
 
You may want to consider taking the legal steps required to temporarily remove him from school. Notify the school superintendent, principle, etc. ... probably have to file something in family court. Of course they will want something from a psychiatrist/psychologist stating why. You'll probably need a family law attorney, because every state, and sometimes every district, has different rules and requirements.

At the least, you need to inform the school principle and district superintendent immediately, given the "borderline" nature of attendance. The last thing you want is to end up behind the wrecking-ball of truancy law and be playing catch-up with the school system and courts. (seriously, in my state, you or your child could end up in jail)
 
In the state where I live, it is legal for parents to home-school their children.
 

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