Define yourself

[Kayla55]

“This is my son Jon with his prom date Maddie. He is a junior and he has autism. About a month ago, Maddie, a senior, came to my office (I’m a teacher at their school) and asked if Jon’s mom and I would allow her to take him to prom. Maddie had gotten to know Jon through a school club that promotes friendships between special needs kids and regular kids. “He’s a junior,” she explained “so it’s his prom too. I just think he should have the chance to go.” I told her we would be honored to have him go with her.

During the next couple weeks, she asked what his favorite color was (orange) so she could get a dress in that color. She also made reservations for their group (they doubled with another couple)at a restaurant that served his favorite food – chicken fingers and French fries.

I encourage everyone to like and share this for three reasons:

1. To show support for special kids like Jon

2. To show support for groups that promote these friendships

3. To remind us all, in a time when we hear about all the terrible things going on, that there are wonderful kids like Maddie working to make other’s lives better.”

Author: Jon’s Mother

Spoiler

This is copied from a facebook post dated 28 January 2016.

 

[Kayla55]

Teaching pool or snooker as way to socialise without need to engage in too much small talk is a tool as referred earlier as pressure to date without social know how can limit some people.

I know idea of going out to gym in morning or practicing playing snooker in quieter environ sounds daunting but consider it's not dating form of ABA although if one doesn't try then you may miss out in life.

I think going out and having a bit of social is to benefit when you meet someone. Knowing what to say or having things to talk about is largely relevant to last time you got out.

 

[Kayla55]

It's not ABA as forcing you at school to transition to next activity. It's about having tools to be able to handle socials better, it's about reasonable expectations before pressuring someone who doesn't know what to say or do.

 

[Kayla55]

I refer to ABA to compare never learning to date or go out, but not using a cruel and senseless way. If you feel you can't even go out as suggested then dating may never happen.

 

[Prometheus]

“This is my son Jon with his prom date Maddie. He is a junior and he has autism. About a month ago, Maddie, a senior, came to my office (I’m a teacher at their school) and asked if Jon’s mom and I would allow her to take him to prom. Maddie had gotten to know Jon through a school club that promotes friendships between special needs kids and regular kids. “He’s a junior,” she explained “so it’s his prom too. I just think he should have the chance to go.” I told her we would be honored to have him go with her.

During the next couple weeks, she asked what his favorite color was (orange) so she could get a dress in that color. She also made reservations for their group (they doubled with another couple)at a restaurant that served his favorite food – chicken fingers and French fries.

I encourage everyone to like and share this for three reasons:

1. To show support for special kids like Jon

2. To show support for groups that promote these friendships

3. To remind us all, in a time when we hear about all the terrible things going on, that there are wonderful kids like Maddie working to make other’s lives better.”

Author: Jon’s Mother

That's cool. Sometimes we lose sight of the fact, the world is not as cold as it might seem. There are many good hearted people out there, they are the majority, not the minority.

 

[Kayla55]

https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/online-dating/social-dating/

 

[Kayla55]

What is social dating and why is it a really good idea

 

[Kayla55]

Define myself?

I'm a musician who has autism. I enjoy reading, cooking, baking, and consuming tea and water. I like walking by the sea, long drives with plainchant on my speakers. I am sometimes awkward and silent and mute; other times I am monstrous and awful to be around. I am also in love. I have big dreams and goals and have been working on them for years. I've only recently really had the opportunity to know myself as a human being.

We Hungarians were interested in new light regarding contract and death of original lead singer of rolling stones.
His suicide was a sadness to those around him as he was brilliant yet so misunderstood. Still sparks a raging debate among us.
I think being a musician is awesome, if this is your calling then so be it, but I must say too me it would be too much challenge. I suppose sex, drugs and rock'n'roll goes with territory, my experience was it can make things just more intense, personally I avoid dope but not everyone agrees.
Sorry, I don't always answer a question immediately or its scattered in bits n pieces.
I was told once that he wrote the song for me but I was not sure, he wasn't on spectrum so I didn't understand how song was anything about me, but maybe it's way I made him feel. I think men and women are different and even more so on spectrum.

 

[autism-and-autotune]

We Hungarians were interested in new light regarding contract and death of original lead singer of rolling stones.
His suicide was a sadness to those around him as he was brilliant yet so misunderstood. Still sparks a raging debate among us.
I think being a musician is awesome, if this is your calling then so be it, but I must say too me it would be too much challenge. I suppose sex, drugs and rock'n'roll goes with territory, my experience was it can make things just more intense, personally I avoid dope but not everyone agrees.
Sorry, I don't always answer a question immediately or its scattered in bits n pieces.
I was told once that he wrote the song for me but I was not sure, he wasn't on spectrum so I didn't understand how song was anything about me, but maybe it's way I made him feel. I think men and women are different and even more so on spectrum.

Interesting to read! Music is definitely a challenge, regardless of genre.

 

[Kayla55]

So when friends r round then it's Mr. Jones and when they all gone and I take my mask off and leave it in a jar by door...(lyrics) TT hen I'll listen to round here by counting crows

 

[Kayla55]

I'm not sure what the point of all this is, but to me, defining yourself is not much different in consequence than having someone else define you. It's putting yourself (or being put) in a pigeon hole when the reality is that for many people, on the spectrum or not, 'self' is rather more likely to be fluid and subject to quite extensive change.

Pigeon holes are easy, and also traps to limit freedom and growth. Why do that to yourself? What is to be gained from it?

Admittedly, the OP writes in a style that I can't make much sense of since it reads like a form of mental shorthand in places, thus I suspect I am really missing the point. If so, by all means ignore me since I'm probably not the intended audience!

The pigeon hole is to say what is healthy or at least what I expect, reciprocation. If you bit lost in emotional battle as I was I took time off as I needed to assess myself, quietly. In ladylike way. I never spoke to him again as I was convinced there was someone else, paranoid, paranoid...and stopping weed just cleared it up.
Sorry, pigeon hole is way of saying if someone has emotionally regulated themselves to date. Just defines few norms. It's not to be nasty but if someone can realise and change it's better that you can define pigeon hole...

 

[Kayla55]

Sorry, if you too weird people could steer clear, and pigeon hole of readily rateable is incase you loose touch with reality. Separating that from my above never talking again,
If someone is unresponsive and repetitive and having prenotions of women that become dictating ....not readily rateable
But if you not to way out or weird then probably don't need to take note of above mentioned pigeon holes

 

[Kayla55]

Well, he like never wanted to go out at all, and I'm not going out all time but can't even walk on quiet beach. (Jail)
He sits in middle of couch (after work) with remote changing channels, finally turns around and says oh it's Thursday, it's chick flick. Then assumes I'm interested in this garbage movie.
Comes home from work assuming I'm his therapist and I get happy to do this all time, never ever asked how was my day.
Moaned all day about how I ate tinned mussels as if was prized possession. So I put tin in big huge box, wrapped it up, left it at door. Packed my stuff, left quietly and decided to never get down n out!!

Not dateable ( long ago, never forget, could never forget. Just advise against dictator)

 

[Kayla55]

Evolution is key

 

[Kayla55]

10 Ways to Flirt with a Nerd

The dude who runs Nerd Nite Speed-Dating gives us some insights on how to win over hot geeks.

www.marieclaire.com

Just tell him you're a nerd too and share a story about how you were a smart little kid or can name 65 different handbag designers.

Don't try cure him of his obsession

MAURA: What's a pretty good sign a nerd is falling for you?


MATT: He actually notices he's rambling on about the neurology behind toxoplasmosis, for instance, and stops himself, saying, "But enough about zombies. Would you like another glass of wine?"

WHATEVER

 

[Kayla55]

So I'm not going off the grid anymore, I'm starting a school. I call it nix--mo^rf and I'm going to employ teachers and tell em what to do!!
This way I show my daddy just how constructively manipulative I can be and assign brain jobs to Barbie....teee-hee teee-hee

So anyway asked to say what I think above article is about....it's a man's world, and men are being men,
What do I think about way men go about being men? Absurd

 

[Forest Cat]

So I'm not going off the grid anymore, I'm starting a school. I call it nix--mo^rf and I'm going to employ teachers and tell em what to do!!
This way I show my daddy just how constructively manipulative I can be and assign brain jobs to Barbie....teee-hee teee-hee

So anyway asked to say what I think above article is about....it's a man's world, and men are being men,
What do I think about way men go about being men? Absurd

Have men ever done anything good or are they just worthless trash?

 

[Kayla55]

 

[Prometheus]

What do I think about way men go about being men? Absurd

The notion of the absurd was a key element in the... very male, philosophy of Albert Camus.

"Camus sees Sisyphus as the absurd hero who lives life to the fullest, hates death, and is condemned to a meaningless task. Camus presents Sisyphus's ceaseless and pointless toil as a metaphor for modern lives spent working at futile jobs in factories and offices."

 

[Kayla55]

Have men ever done anything good or are they just worthless trash?

You sound nice forest.....it's deep RMI therapy.....designed to suck out shell, remove comfort zone, enable tools and voila we can if did experimente' gives living satisfaction

MATT: Nerds are MUCH choosier. If a nerd goes out with a coiffed, perfectly tan Barbie doll, he'll probably become bored (albeit extremely horny) within a few minutes. He might even sabotage the date to find more engrossing company — whereas other guys will patiently listen to her stories of nail polish and shopping in the hopes of getting into her pants. The nerd will end the date and simply take matters into his own hands, an act with which he's comfortable and familiar.