Oh sorry, i meant that this person is intentional, manipulative, cruel and violent; as opposed to being reactive like a child bully might be.
Ah ok, that makes sense, I understand - no need to apologize
Although I've run into the other type before as well.
I'm sorry for that (so have I)
She's a friend of the landlord and she shouldn't be allowed in but the landlord is letting her do a lot of things, so that does worry me.
Ok, in that case she actually is a trespasser and you could call police to remove her.
You could even call the non-emergency police phone number to make a report about what she has been doing - how she comes in your apartment for no reason, any abusive or threatening things she has done, that you feel threatened.
Have you spoken with your landlord about this person coming into your place and he has told you she is allowed to do this - or that she is allowed to do the "a lot of things"?
If it is just her telling you she is allowed,
I would not trust this is true...if the landlord has said she is allowed or you have already tried to speak to him about things and he has disbelieved you, I see how you would feel super unsafe there.
If you are worried that the landlord would tell the police she was allowed to go into your apartment or that she was fixing something or doing an agreed upon inspection, I am doubtful that would be good enough for the police to consider her behaviour lawful. I suppose she or the landlord could argue there was some kind of emergency but that wouldn't work more than once.....
Unless your are renting a room from your landlord, or your apartment is inside your landlord's house and you do not have your own locked, separate entrance, in most jurisdictions there are rules landlords have to follow about respecting the privacy of their tenants.
Those rules usually say a landlord must give you written notice a certain number of days before they want to enter your apartment, and that they must have a valid reason -- like doing repairs. A landlord cannot just come into your apt whenever they feel like it...
It sounds like a very sketchy situation...a very unsafe place to live.
I am guessing, as a renter, you cannot change the locks; But can you get a chain stop and put it on the inside of your door? Something like this:
Or like this(?):
I wish i had met you earlier. That's really helpful.
Keep in mind what said about EPOs doesn't apply everywhere. Not even to all provinces in Canada.
But you could call the non-emergency police phone number and ask them for advice about this -- just tell them what has been happening with her coming into your apartment and ask if they can advise you.
Another suggestion is to do an internet search for "[name of your city/county/state/province/territory]" and "restraining order" or "protection order" "how to/help"
Strangely she accused me of this and said she'd get the cops to come after me for it which was strange on every level considering she's actually done much worse to people.
That is weird...and likely an empty threat.
In some places it is illegal to record people without their permission but I don't think she could have you punished for trying to
protect yourself bt recording her in your own home
I wish i had but i hadn't done that. I have to meet someone but she's been knocked out on drugs for a while so everything's been paused even though i haven't managed to sleep.
Um, is she in your apt right now? If so you could call the police right now,
Or does she live in a different apt in the same building?
Sorry, I am having a hard time conceptualizing some of your situation,
