Convincing yourself that another person actually likes you

[STR]

To help with this problem, I tell people when I like them, find them attractive, want to be their friend, or date them in very clear terms, which forces them to respond in kind. Idk if this helps anyone, Ijust tthought I'd share that. Also, I tend to do this very soon after meeting someone, to avoid a period of awkward ambiguity.

Thanks for sharing this, JMcCauley. I never tell anyone how I feel about them, so I basically spend my entire life in a never-ending period of awkward ambiguity...

 

[Kirsty]

Oh all the time. I wonder if people actually like me. When in groups I find it is easier for the other person to chat when I'm there either to me or other people, but if I'm alone that person who likes to chat doesn't bother speaking one-to-one with me most of the time and dismisses me. I think they sense my social awkwardness and think I'm 'weird'.

 

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LostSoul

 

[PrincessRuto]

I have struggled with this as well. To me it's been most recognizable to me with my husband's friends and family. Even when he tried to convince me that they liked me, it took me years and them making it clear that I was not a burden of their relationships. It was hard to understand that liking and disliking things or people are not concrete opinions either. I was oblivious to people growing to like me as I spent more time with them, since conversing with them is still so difficult for me.

 

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and doggone it, people like me."

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