Connecting with People

[savi83]

Hi everybody,

I have always had a really small circle, which only consisted of close family relatives.

When I was young I didn't mix with the other kids outside of school, apart from when my parents forced me to go to the birthday parties of kids in my class.

I just preferred my own company.

As I've grown older I have managed to make a close friend who is now my girlfriend (which I believe to be a fluke) as I don't seem to be able to connect with other people.

I generally feel uncomfortable around people. Some issues that they feel are important, seem really silly to me. I don't seem to be able to find a middle ground with people.

I've tried to join in conversion but I feel do fake and awkward.

Does anyone have any tips in building relationships?

 

[OrSomething]

Have you tried making online friends? I find that it's easier to have conversations online.

 

[Streetwise]

Hi everybody,

I have always had a really small circle, which only consisted of close family relatives.

When I was young I didn't mix with the other kids outside of school, apart from when my parents forced me to go to the birthday parties of kids in my class.

I just preferred my own company.

As I've grown older I have managed to make a close friend who is now my girlfriend (which I believe to be a fluke) as I don't seem to be able to connect with other people.

I generally feel uncomfortable around people. Some issues that they feel are important, seem really silly to me. I don't seem to be able to find a middle ground with people.

I've tried to join in conversion but I feel do fake and awkward.

Does anyone have any tips in building relationships?

Be friendly ,let them talk about themselves !but not the whole time ! don't talk about what you are interested in for your part of the conversation for longer than a few minutes unless they are interested in it themselves .
Part of being a friend is helping them if you can and if they need it.
Do what you can do !if for instance they would like to go to a restaurant and that is too stressful for you suggest somewhere like a public park or a very small cafe .

 

[SusanLR]

I have always had a really small circle, which only consisted of close family relatives

This is how I've always been.
I didn't have siblings or care about being friends with other kids growing up.

Now that small circle is gone and I still don't feel connected to people.
I can care for and find a few I even like, but, no matter who I am with there is still that empty feeling inside.
Interacting with others still leaves me feeling alone and the relationships seem fake and shallow.

I think Streetwise has some good points in building relationships.
But, I don't know how to feel connected.
And I don't know how to feel fulfilled alone either.
It all comes back to wanting that unconditional love that can be trusted.
And as @Sabrina said, I only found that from my parents.