Leah (lay-uh)
New Member
It is my first time living alone and I work a job where I don’t talk to anyone during my shift besides the occasional hello. On one hand I enjoy the solitude, my “home” was very abusive and I now I finally have a peaceful place to call my own, I used to only find this peace and solitude outdoors for short periods of time. I do genuinely enjoy time with myself but I find myself desperately feeling alone and yet totally unable to enjoy spending time with people to make friends. I’m autistic but I’m quiet the extrovert (not because I like being around people but social interactions are performances for me and I love to perform!!!!) and complete solitude has been rough as my abusers in the past used isolation and social shame (I.e. “what would others think” statements and observations about my character made so that I felt outcasted and hated by the majority of society) as a tool to keep me dependent on them… it’s hard to trust and make friends with this trauma on top of being autistic. Performances are great for meetings with strangers at the park that asked about the ukulele I carry around with me but performances are exhausting, I burn out and then the friends are lost in confusion “where did my friend go??”, well, your friend is actually deeply deeply troubled and fearful of real intimacy and can’t keep up with the energy… they realize that then leave… idk long blob of scattered text maybe someone can relate????