Co workers....

[bchamp]

I'm a front end supervisor at a grocery store, I do have a few associates that I am very fond of. One who's a new hire, super cute.. Just a bit younger than I am. She's 17(legal in my state). Other... who I know is a big nono. She's our manager, and a mother.. I'm unsure if she is married or not. But I have a huge amount of respect for her, but also always wanting to be around her, and so forth.

It's retail, so I mean... If there's a chance that I eventually get involved with one of my associates I'll take it.. but if not I'm okay with.. but don't want it to ruin my job. It's been a while since I've been with a female, so I'm looking sort of. I'm not a hook up kind of person.

Any tips, or similar experiences? I don't know if I'm just expressing myself or wanting advice honestly.

 

[Judge]

That's how my brother lost his store manager job with a corporate retailer. He didn't pay any attention to their fraternization policies and proceeded to hit on one of his subordinates. The employee he thought he knew well instantly reported him and he was escorted off the premises in a short amount of time. Terminated for cause.

Take a long, hard look at whatever such policies your employer may have. And even then, consider the basics of a supervisor having a romantic interest in a subordinate and how it may potentially reflect a form of harassment. Even with a perception of the best of intentions.

I fraternized with a fellow employee who ended up being a live-in girlfriend. But she worked in a different department than I did, and wasn't considered in the least as my subordinate. No harm, no foul in the eyes of our employer.

 

[Mary Anne]

Big huge NO! Do not have any relationships with co-workers. especially if you are in management. Doesn’t matter is a 17 year old “is legal” in your state. Seriously unprofessional on your part to even consider it, but you sound young and inexperienced yourself, so I apologize for sounding harsh from the get go. There are other places to find a date rather then where you work.

You could lose your job for sure, for one. Most places do have rules about this, as Judge says above. Even if there are no posted rules, it’s an unwritten rule we’ll known in society. There are a lot of work place gossips, and trouble that would make for potential unpleasant and unprofessional situations too numerous to mention. You would eventually be accused of favoritism by other workers. When your two have an argument, she is bound to mention it to her friends and this will get unpleasant on the work floor.

What if you decide to break things off and both of you are forced to deal with each other when you want nothing to do with each other? This stuff happens all the time. If she gets mad at you, or gets pregnant, or whatever happens, she can and usually will tell your bosses, and you will not only get fired, but will have all this in your work record. It will be a lost reference. Supervisors should never date their subordinates. It’s super risky. You will not come out looking professional, and you will be unhappy.

 

[Shiznown]

It's already hard for guys with social problems to get with women. My advice would be to engage, but only if she shows interest first. If you like her, don't give her the cold shoulder and take my advice now since you're young, start looking into training to get a better career. Retail is hell and this is just one of the reasons. If you need this job and it's life and death, okay MAYBE don't engage at all, but if it's not and this is just a job for extra money, screw it. Just wait for her to show interest and if she doesn't, don't worry about it.

 

[bchamp]

Big huge NO! Do not have any relationships with co-workers. especially if you are in management. Doesn’t matter is a 17 year old “is legal” in your state. Seriously unprofessional on your part to even consider it, but you sound young and inexperienced yourself, so I apologize for sounding harsh from the get go. There are other places to find a date rather then where you work.

You could lose your job for sure, for one. Most places do have rules about this, as Judge says above. Even if there are no posted rules, it’s an unwritten rule we’ll known in society. There are a lot of work place gossips, and trouble that would make for potential unpleasant and unprofessional situations too numerous to mention. You would eventually be accused of favoritism by other workers. When your two have an argument, she is bound to mention it to her friends and this will get unpleasant on the work floor.

What if you decide to break things off and both of you are forced to deal with each other when you want nothing to do with each other? This stuff happens all the time. If she gets mad at you, or gets pregnant, or whatever happens, she can and usually will tell your bosses, and you will not only get fired, but will have all this in your work record. It will be a lost reference. Supervisors should never date their subordinates. It’s super risky. You will not come out looking professional, and you will be unhappy.

I mean, yeah I get most of that. But I don't expect this to be a permanent job. So I mean.. I feel if something happens... something happens right? I'm just talking between two persons. I really had something for a certain person in our workplace who works with our customer service, does supervise, and much more. She knew, I was quite obsessive about it at the time. We treat each other as if nothing happened, respects me still, and does not mention it. This was when I was just a cashier.

Today when I was talking with the one who's just a cashier in training. She kind of touched me randomly, as if she just wanted to in weird ways. Always asks for me, and whatnot. I mean, there are others who can help to but always me. She's cute, not gonna lie either. We do make some small talk here and there, already asking about personal life. err, yeah.

It's already hard for guys with social problems to get with women. My advice would be to engage, but only if she shows interest first. If you like her, don't give her the cold shoulder and take my advice now since you're young, start looking into training to get a better career. Retail is hell and this is just one of the reasons. If you need this job and it's life and death, okay MAYBE don't engage at all, but if it's not and this is just a job for extra money, screw it. Just wait for her to show interest and if she doesn't, don't worry about it.

Yeah, it's mostly just a job for experience. I'm young, and have interests in other carer possibilities. I do enjoy my work believe it or not, whether I'm supervising or not. It's kind of nice, and actually made the people person feel like I am.

 

[Shiznown]

I mean, yeah I get most of that. But I don't expect this to be a permanent job. So I mean.. I feel if something happens... something happens right? I'm just talking between two persons. I really had something for a certain person in our workplace who works with our customer service, does supervise, and much more. She knew, I was quite obsessive about it at the time. We treat each other as if nothing happened, respects me still, and does not mention it. This was when I was just a cashier.

Today when I was talking with the one who's just a cashier in training. She kind of touched me randomly, as if she just wanted to in weird ways. Always asks for me, and whatnot. I mean, there are others who can help to but always me. She's cute, not gonna lie either. We do make some small talk here and there, already asking about personal life. err, yeah.


Yeah, it's mostly just a job for experience. I'm young, and have interests in other carer possibilities. I do enjoy my work believe it or not, whether I'm supervising or not. It's kind of nice, and actually made the people person feel like I am.

Ask her out before she starts touching some other guy in weird ways! If you don't soon, she's going to think you're not interested.

 

[bchamp]

I was gonna make another thread, but... I decided not to. I'm feeling happy, really really happy. This has nothing to do with either of these workers.. In fact someone quite unsuspecting, and actually came to me about her feelings.. I think she's cute, someone who has a really caring heart, someone I feel I could definitely love. We had a semi date before work today, and just talked more personally outside of work, and text.

I get a lot of people disagree on relationships with co workers, but this is a min wage job, and in ways I'm losing some interest at this particular place... but we plan on keeping it professional at work, if it gets serious we will inform management, and that's already agreed to do. I just thought I'd say this, because... I'm feeling good, and a whole lot more relaxed now.

 

[Shiznown]

I was gonna make another thread, but... I decided not to. I'm feeling happy, really really happy. This has nothing to do with either of these workers.. In fact someone quite unsuspecting, and actually came to me about her feelings.. I think she's cute, someone who has a really caring heart, someone I feel I could definitely love. We had a semi date before work today, and just talked more personally outside of work, and text.

I get a lot of people disagree on relationships with co workers, but this is a min wage job, and in ways I'm losing some interest at this particular place... but we plan on keeping it professional at work, if it gets serious we will inform management, and that's already agreed to do. I just thought I'd say this, because... I'm feeling good, and a whole lot more relaxed now.

 

[paloftoon]

Start looking for another job so that you can date this girl more properly when you do switch over. You could also tell her that is she's interested in you that she could try to look for another job too (you could say this right off the bat, but don't have to, but try to time it where you don't get to kissing either). If she's really quality, she'll work with you on this. If she won't you can forget her.

 

[Aidos]

I'd say just be sure to read up on your workplace standards.

Where I work and live, coworker relationships are totally expected, and so it's acceptable. It's like a 'thing' that I've chosen to opt out of.

Each season someone new.