So l think l am seeing someone who maybe on the spectrum. Truly at first l had no idea about this person or myself even being on the spectrum. So l have done some very stupid things but it's due to stress of my living environment. At times this person says they need their space and l get that. But it hurts like a knife that they won't call and say hi periodically. I have always been respectful except two times where l was experiencing highly stressful events and just hoped for a hug that's it. Is it wrong for me to ask for an occasional call or is it common for people on the spectrum to completely drop off due to stress from our friendship? l also have pushed him away several times because l have had to battle huge amounts of issues and it's been ongoing for 5 years. He says he needs his space. l really don't invite myself over. Is it okay to talk about this? Currently l am now seeing a therapist to deal with PTSD and l can sometimes trigger with respect to my ex. I really care for this person, but the other part of me wants to run and hide. Is this typical of us being on the spectrum? We didn't meet for almost two years. I was battered from divorce and was to frighten to even go to airport because of all the people there. Mainly how should l talk to this person?
When l mentioned dates of when we met, they get extremely uncomfortable, that makes me feel really bad and l don't know why but l am afraid to ask. Sometimes l feel like l am walking on eggshells and everthing l do is a screwup. Is it okay to ask for clarification? First l never called, then they acted like they wanted me to call , then l was told not to call. The double messages can be daunting. Are double messages part of the spectrum? Is this difficult because we are both on the spectrum? When we are together, the sun comes out, and we jell beautifully. But the communication, his lack of it, and my ability to push him away when stressed sucks.
When l mentioned dates of when we met, they get extremely uncomfortable, that makes me feel really bad and l don't know why but l am afraid to ask. Sometimes l feel like l am walking on eggshells and everthing l do is a screwup. Is it okay to ask for clarification? First l never called, then they acted like they wanted me to call , then l was told not to call. The double messages can be daunting. Are double messages part of the spectrum? Is this difficult because we are both on the spectrum? When we are together, the sun comes out, and we jell beautifully. But the communication, his lack of it, and my ability to push him away when stressed sucks.
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