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Can't stand the change

Skylark

Skylark

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Hubby and littl'un built a den in which they are sleeping overnight. They invited me to join them but I point-blank refused.

Why is it that a bit of mess in the lounge and a change to our usual bedtime routine has me so wound up? It is just for fun! However, I felt really uncomfortable.

On the plus side, I have our room (and bed) all to myself tonight. I am enjoying the privacy. It was impossible to explain exactly why I had to retreat upstairs early, except that my dizziness had got worse (part of my EDS).
 
I see it as just a camping adventure for the kiddo,not a really big deal in my honest opinion,only different.
Adjustment to a child should not be a difficult event,but it seems as though you have found a compromise. I only hope you don't regret it later that you weren't a part of it. On the other hand,I see no reason why you can't join in until the child goes to sleep and then migrate to your own place of choice. Keep in mind it doesn't involve sleeping on the ground in a tent because you can still use your own bed and your own child gets to have fun while you are all awake. :)
 
Its just not in your comfort zone. Maybe with some advance warning you might be able to get comfortable with the idea, but spur of the moment changes... well we don't deal well with those generally.

If you want to do something. Make them smores or popcorn.
 
It's the chaos for me. Nice, neat living room has become Ivan 2.0. (Er, 3.4.0. Ivan hit the states two or three times. :yum:)
But if I can cope with it enough, woohoo! Party! Break out the graham crackers, Hershey's, and marshmallows!
 
I went in for a cuddle. Littl'un enjoyed herself and I think hubby did too. I enjoyed my space.
No idea what smores are, or graham crackers (I'm in the UK).
Thankfully they're putting it away so I'll get my sofa back soon!
 
I agree, it is a fairly minor thing, but such chaos can be overwhelming. We all have our own tolerance levels. The best we can do is be reasonable and not allow our own perticularity get in the way of other people's fun. Of course, you also need to take care of yourself. It's a ballancing act. I would say you handeled it well.
 
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