Can anyone give me some advice please

[bubbles]

Ok well I am a 16 year old female and I need some advice... About 8 years ago my mum noticed things weren't quite right and something she read in a magazine pointed to aspergers syndrome, I have anxiety when in social situations for most of my school life I spent all my time in the library at school I had no friends and felt like I didnt fit in, I was bullied from 8 to 14 years old because I was different at the end of year 10 I became "friends" with a group of people and authough they like me and I like them I feel so uncomfortable, they use sarcasm and I don't understand and I take offence when people are only joking, I once told a woman her baby was fat and another that she needed a nose job even though I have "friends" I don't enjoy there company unless it is in a small group or I get overwhelmed and when this happens I end up biting inside of my mouth I am at my happiest when I am in the library and holidays bore me I am intelligent and my head of year at school described me as a female Einstein, I get frustrated when people don't understand me and when I'm confused about something I want to cry, also when I go to bed I cannot put my pajamas on until I am getting into bed and if I don't fall asleep within 5 minutes I go to the toilet this can happen up to 8 times. Do you think this sounds like aspergers because if it is I want to get a diagnosis and i don't know how to express to my mum how much I want to work towards a diagnosis... Any help will be appreciated x

 

[eon]

it's not wrong to like being by yourself.

diagnosis is not a tool that helps anyone. the treatment that helps is self understanding and acceptance, and gaining that same support from those who care about our success

 

[Spinning Compass]

There is a book called "Unwritten Rules of Social Behavior." I believe it is by Dr. Temple Grandin. A MUST read!!! I think it will clarify a lot of things. I wish that book had been around when I was your age.

 

[Soup]

Hi Bubbles, you very well may be an Aspie but that isn't something anyone can diagnose via a thumbnail sketch on a forum. However, I agree with what Eon said: having a diagnosis doesn't necessarily help. Many members here have been diagnosed with everything besides Leprosy. Many have been diagnosed only to have another expert scrap that diagnosis in favour of a completely different one. In Spring 2013, yet another version of the DSM (#5 this time around) intends to scrap the Asperger's Diagnosis altogether in favour of lumping all of us together on the Autism Spectrum! How that will affect those previously considered Aspies remains to be determined. All 'N.O.S.' type diagnoses are also being ditched.

Please hang around here for a while reading, posting & getting to know other Aspies. This place is a good testing ground for yourself since we are Aspies of all different ages, sizes & colours from all over the globe. You'll get a well-rounded introduction to what Aspies tend to be like & see what resonates with you & what doesn't.

 

[bubbles]

Thanks for your advice if anyone else has anything to add please don't hesitate

 

[Arashi222]

I am in a lot of agreement here. A diagnosis is very helpful in that it not only helps you understand you and accept that there are just things that are not going to change you might have ways to cope or learn ways to cope but that there are just some things that may not change about who you are and how you interact in the world. If it is important to you to get a diagnosis then get one. Talk to your mom about it, it sounds like she has been there to see you struggle why not let her know just how much you are struggling and that this might help understand what is going on with you. I wish you luck in whatever you decide

 

[total-recoil]

Just take your time learning what you can and asking questions. You could start finding out about Dr Hans Asperger by yourself and his work on what Aspergers is. Sounds to me as if you found the right place here to ask away. A hearty welcome to you.

Ok well I am a 16 year old female and I need some advice... About 8 years ago my mum noticed things weren't quite right and something she read in a magazine pointed to aspergers syndrome, I have anxiety when in social situations for most of my school life I spent all my time in the library at school I had no friends and felt like I didnt fit in, I was bullied from 8 to 14 years old because I was different at the end of year 10 I became "friends" with a group of people and authough they like me and I like them I feel so uncomfortable, they use sarcasm and I don't understand and I take offence when people are only joking, I once told a woman her baby was fat and another that she needed a nose job even though I have "friends" I don't enjoy there company unless it is in a small group or I get overwhelmed and when this happens I end up biting inside of my mouth I am at my happiest when I am in the library and holidays bore me I am intelligent and my head of year at school described me as a female Einstein, I get frustrated when people don't understand me and when I'm confused about something I want to cry, also when I go to bed I cannot put my pajamas on until I am getting into bed and if I don't fall asleep within 5 minutes I go to the toilet this can happen up to 8 times. Do you think this sounds like aspergers because if it is I want to get a diagnosis and i don't know how to express to my mum how much I want to work towards a diagnosis... Any help will be appreciated x

 

[Dusty285]

I do not have an easy link. Use the search engine in a/your browser (I mix & match Internet Explorer, Firefox Mozilla, Google Chrome) for "Aspie." There will be several online tests in the titles presented by the search engine. Take one of the tests. Be as honest about the answers as you can. At the end the site will calculate scores and present a graph. There will also be some explanation. It is all easy to do by yourself. It is worth printing out the results or at least saving them into the 'documents' in your computer. The whole process is fairly quick, I would guess somewhere between 20 minutes and an hour. In about 3 months take one of the tests again. Results are unlikely to be an exact match, but should be recognizably similar. If they are, it is a start.

I took the tests in July and October. The two tests validated each other and showed that I am significantly Aspie. Knowing the name of the game is a start to being able to learn to cope with it.

 

[Dusty285]

Look at "Aspie Test." I found 3 to 6 tests, some or all free.

 

[Hummingbird]

It sounds like the story of my life. I am in the late thirties and I am not diagnosed. (I am Russian, so I might make a few mistakes The same thoughts were bothering me as well, even though I have learnt how to be around people and to act as everyone else, I feel exhausted big time after these kind of interactions. I like being alone at home, in public libraries or in places where people don't pay personal attention to each other, something like Starbucks. The only one symptom that makes me question if I have Aspersers that I am athletic. I love skating, rollerblading, biking, and running. I think at this point I just need to communicate with people who wired as I am, so I can gain the confidence that has been lost over so many years of questioning myself, "What is wrong with me, why I feel like an alien?? My goal is to accept the things I cannot change and live in Peace with others and myself. I wish you the same.

 

[LittlePuff]

It's good that you might figure it out so young. Lots of time to learn and adapt. I'm 44. Things make sense now, I've learned to adapt some on my own, but you've got a nice "heads up" -sorry lol ;-)