Being Seen

[SimonSays]

I see you as you are
And you need to be seen
You may not have been seen like this

But if you're just words on a page
Never in the same room
No looking
No hearing
Not feeling you

Yet if I see who you are
You can see who I am
And I need you to see who I am
Not just some idea
Of someone to be
But someone you see
Someone you feel
Someone you know

Why must this be?
Because few ever see
And I need to be seen as it's true
I need to be seen
So I’ll know who I am if you do

It doesn't matter you think
I am who I am
But if you see who I am
Then you show me you can
I cannot be free
until you see it is me

Some see for a while
And that makes me smile
To reveal something more
Than has been here before

But unless it is true
I cannot come through
Just a shadow
Is all I can be
I want to be more
but I cannot be sure
and so all I can do
is make sure I see you...

Only what happened before
made me want to know more
an intimate you
a physical you
in love with you

And while it is true
I am close
And you'll see who I am
Should it not last
I lose myself fast
Without you to see
I'm no longer me
What's left is all in the past

 

[SimonSays]

Non-poetic version...

I've come to believe that in order to be who I am, someone has to see me.

By that I mean, if I just think I know who I am, and I live alone, there is nobody to reflect that off.
So in order to know who I am, I have to experience how I make someone else feel.

I can't put too much into someone else's reaction, because different people react differently. But without any reaction at all, I don't really know who I have become. So how you see me, helps me be me, or at least come to understand how I might be perceived.

If the right people reflect honestly, that is a good indication that I can work with.

I expressed this poetically, as it's not easy for me to say. It may not have worked in the way I intended. Perhaps this helps clarify things a little.